Did I do the right thing

[Strawberryshortcake28]

After divorcing my husband a year ago I finally met another man

To start he was lovely wined and dined me every week and even took me on holiday constantly complimented me told me how pretty I was and introduced me to his kids. I had never met anyone so successful before and he opened up to me about how damaged he is due to his failed marriage we definitely had a connection. He brought me on shopping sprees and did little gestures.

Now for thd red flags
He had to go to the bar everyday
He drunk everyday from about 2 I started to feel like he had a drinking problem.

He huffed with me for example at the airport while he was going through security he fell out with me because I walked on through the duty free out of his sight

He started petty arguments over little things like not putting an x at the end of the message

He never met my daughter and showed little interest in doing so.

Anytime I went to meet him it was always after he'd had a drink with his friends

He told me if put on weight and started to call me fattie.

The final straw was when I woukdnt accept another drink he told me we were leaving the bar and when we got back to his house he said I wasn't welcome and went to bed leaving me to sleep on the sofa freezing.
My car was parked outside so I couldn't leave I slept on thd sofa until I sobered up then left

He txt saying he was sorry but I ghosted him think this is the end have I done the right thing? I'm sad I have to start all over again

He's a loser, of course you did the right thing. How long were you together?

Of course you did the right thing. He sounds vile. Please don't waste another second of your life thinking about him. Put it completely behind you and move on.

Yes you done right, do not go back go back to him. Drinking every day disaster.

What an unpleasant man! You have had a narrow escape. Of course you have done the right thing … and remember, you deserve much more than this!

Of course you did the right thing dumping this alcoholic controlling abusive loser.

Your only mistake was not doing it sooner.

Put it behind you, take time to yourself and don’t rush into another rebound. Become and work out what your boundaries are and what works for you.

Definitely done the right thing, well done, stay strong, delete & block

Bullet dodged.

Thanks together six months think I'm just struggling with the loneliness rather than getting dressed up and out every weekend he txt me trying to blame me
Trying to stay strong

It sounds like he used his money to reel you in by having a nice time together. But emotionally he could not offer you what you needed. You definitely did the right thing. I would be fuming if someone called me fat. It’s easy to miss someone. Take some time to find more things for you and look after you.

@Strawberryshortcake28

Do you have female friends you can get dressed up and go out with?

Being single is far better than being with the wrong man and definitely doesn’t automatically equal lonely.

Well done for having self respect. You've saved yourself a world of pain there. Please hold tight, things will get better & you will undoubtedly meet someone else who will be lovely. You won't meet him if you're with that deadbeat bloke!

Och aye - you did exactly the right thing. He buttered you up and then when you were on board with that, he started with the manipulative, controlling crap.
He's abusive and nasty.
You are WELL out of it.

Of course you've done the right thing. If this is how he is six months in, imagine how it would be after a year, two years, several years? This is the sort of behaviour that only gets worse.

I know the loneliness is hard sometimes, but do you really think you'd be happier in this relationship? Being alone is 1000x better than being stuck with a prick.

God what a dick. I'd text him: "you're a selfish prick with a drinking problem. Don't contact me again"

Please don't get sucked in to these love bombing men again.

You should look at trying to spend more time with friends. And I say the next thing with love....let yourself really feel the loneliness. I say this because you will get through this way more confident and comfortable in your own company. To a point where you won't compromise your boundaries again for a man.

Well done for finishing with him.

Absolutely honey you have 100% done thr right thing here before you invested anymore of your time TBH you got an early glimpse of what life would be like with this person and it sounds ugly. Well done you … someone nice will be out there for you

You really need to ask us OP?
Yes! You did the right thing.

"The final straw was when I wouldn't accept another drink he told me we were leaving the bar and when we got back to his house he said I wasn't welcome and went to bed leaving me to sleep on the sofa freezing.
My car was parked outside so I couldn't leave I slept on the sofa until I sobered up then left."

He is a complete rotter. What a horrible, unkind and controlling way to behave. Punishing you like a tyrannical father.
This not a man who respects your autonomy or wellbeing. He's awful.

As for the rest, the text whining, the upset over you walking ahead, the DRINKING...all red flags and cause for dismissal. He's a selfish twat.

But telling you that you were unwelcome in his home while leaving you stranded there, deeply nasty. Very unsettling.

Of course you have, you're well rid of this maniac.

That's really awful behaviour. TBH I can't think how you actually put up with it at all. Move on and thank your lucky stars he's shown his true colours before you wasted any more time.

You have100% done the right thing, he sounds controlling and nasty as well as being drink dependent. Please have a break from dating altogether and concentrate on firming up your boundaries. Go out with friends and spend time with your daughter, learn to enjoy your own company too. You dodged a bullet with this one, well done for getting rid!

He sounds awful, why would you want to be with someone who could treat you like that?

Decent people treat others nicely, there's plenty about. Don't be afraid of being on your own or of wanting to be treated kindly and with respect. Without it, what's the point?

This

I like this as well.

He sounds awful.