Did I do the right thing

[Strawberryshortcake28]

After divorcing my husband a year ago I finally met another man

To start he was lovely wined and dined me every week and even took me on holiday constantly complimented me told me how pretty I was and introduced me to his kids. I had never met anyone so successful before and he opened up to me about how damaged he is due to his failed marriage we definitely had a connection. He brought me on shopping sprees and did little gestures.

Now for thd red flags
He had to go to the bar everyday
He drunk everyday from about 2 I started to feel like he had a drinking problem.

He huffed with me for example at the airport while he was going through security he fell out with me because I walked on through the duty free out of his sight

He started petty arguments over little things like not putting an x at the end of the message

He never met my daughter and showed little interest in doing so.

Anytime I went to meet him it was always after he'd had a drink with his friends

He told me if put on weight and started to call me fattie.

The final straw was when I woukdnt accept another drink he told me we were leaving the bar and when we got back to his house he said I wasn't welcome and went to bed leaving me to sleep on the sofa freezing.
My car was parked outside so I couldn't leave I slept on thd sofa until I sobered up then left

He txt saying he was sorry but I ghosted him think this is the end have I done the right thing? I'm sad I have to start all over again

Bet I can guess why his marriage

He sounds ghastly, and no fun.

Yes you've definitely done the right thing, good riddance.

Thanks keep the reassurance coming I have my daughters birthday party today have to put on a happy face and host when I'm devesated I'm back to square one 😂

Square one or fresh page?

This. Don’t look at it as square one. Look at it as the perfect opportunity to write a new chapter

Square one? What the amazing self determined woman who pulled the trigger on a shit marriage and a crap relationship.

Square one sounds like a great place to be, a good foundation to focus on you and. It compromise yourself for mediocre or shit men.

You know you aren't valued by your relationship status right?

You did the right thing he sounds awful, but I noticed you said you divorced a year ago and then have been dating this man for 6 months. I don’t know if you were separated for quite a while before you divorced, but it sounds like you didn’t have much of a break to be single between divorce and the new relationship?

A lot of predatory men would be quite keen on a newly single woman as they may assume she’s vulnerable or needy. And also you may not realise some of the signs of you don’t take some time for yourself.

I was single for several years and learned to read men like a book so when I started dating again, I could immediately see the signs of the love bombers, the narcissists , the future fakers, the players etc and would get rid immediately.

I don’t think meeting someone’s kids after a few months is a great idea either btw. It’s an actually a good thing your kid didn’t meet him so you should be glad about that. Especially as your child may be readjusting to the new family set up too. Why bring a new man into the mix?

It’s far better you focus on your child, and learn to be on your own for a while. Don’t be that single mother who goes from man to man and then finds out decades later their child hated it. Count this as a lucky escape.

Sounds like he love bombed you to lore you in and then you saw the real him

Hi thanks I was single for a year before I met him had a few situationships in between that's a different interesting story! Also fought cancer guess I got my hopes up for my happy ending after a hard year

A year with ‘situationships’ isn’t very long to be single after a long relationship. Stating totally single and focusing on other areas of life rather than men is absolutely liberating and I believe essential for learning your boundaries. Being truly single for a period of time will help you see the obvious red flags this one had from day one so much clearer and not tolerate anymore BS from low bar men.

Well done for standing up for yourself and leaving a situation where you weren’t being treated right. It’s natural that you feel very sad right now that this didn’t work out (because the guy is a bullying alcoholic) but that doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice! Making good choices can be tough. You’re brave and strong and a great role model for your daughter xx

All of the plus sides of this relationship were basically easy, superficial things. It's easy for someone with money to buy you gifts, take you out to dinner, tell you you're pretty.
What's hard is not behaving like an asshole when you are one, which he is. So he failed on that end.
Honestly, I'd rather have a man who didn't spoil me materially or give me superficial compliments, but who was deeply kind, respectful, dignified, etc.

You did the right thing.