Just that really. A follow on from the thread discussing what it means to be truly Single and free of any desire or ties to a male romantic partner. A few posters commented that they are single but have FWB to provide, ahem, occasional, light relief, if you will.
Do you have one? How does it work? Do you have rules, boundaries - are they said or unsaid? How do you contact your 'friend' and what do you do with them - sex only or other stuff?
Do you buy them a birthday present? What would happen if they, or you, wanted to take it further and start a proper relationship? Does this situation cause you any angst or is it entirely blissful?
I am interested in all your experiences and advice because I am single and I am thinking of (lowers voice and puts on a sultry accent) 'taking a lover'. Or should I just forget it and focus on becoming a fully evolved, zen-like, capital S Singleton?!
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Do you have a FWB/ lover? Tell me about your experience please!
Superlambaanana · 28/03/2024 17:03
PermanentTemporary · 28/03/2024 19:10
@SamW98 a true FWB is a friend already.
If I were looking now or someone to meet in this way I'd probably try Feeld.
SamW98 · 28/03/2024 19:06
How and where do I find a FWB? I’ve tried OLD, I’m very socially active and I’m very out and about all the time yet I’ve not met anyone in 4 years single 🤷♀️
CatCatCatCatCatCat · 28/03/2024 19:09
No I couldn't do this. I wouldn't be able to have regular sex with someone with developing feelings but I know many women can and do. It's why I've been celibate almost 8 years 😰
Superlambaanana · 28/03/2024 19:17
You've not met anyone you fancy? Or you've not met any single men? Single men (who've been single for a while and aren't just in between monogamous relationships) are all fair game as FWB. Men like sex and they don't really need to fancy the women they have it with all that much. Just suggest you are thinking of taking a lover and you will be surprised how many contact you to submit expressions of interest!
SamW98 · 28/03/2024 19:06
How and where do I find a FWB? I’ve tried OLD, I’m very socially active and I’m very out and about all the time yet I’ve not met anyone in 4 years single 🤷♀️
Superlambaanana · 28/03/2024 19:23
@SamW98 Yes I'm over 50 too. But if you're waiting for someone you find attractive then I'd argue you're looking for a traditional relationship rather than a casual FWB type affair.
Deargodletitgo · 28/03/2024 19:29
Ewwww why would you sleep with someone you weren't attracted to? If I'd wanted to do that I'd have stayed married 😬
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