Long story... sorry, just really need some girlie advice here. Try to keep it brief.
I started very casually seeing a man in April 2022. In October 22 I suggested dating and getting to know each other better. We went on a few dates and things were good but he wasn't as available as I needed for a relationship, so I ended it. At the time I knew he had an "ex" and a 3 year old. Same situation as myself. He worked a lot and co-parented full time (prob a lie)
I'd been to his house - very much a mans house, no sign of wife/girlfriend. There were bottles and baby accessories, jungle gym etc which I thought was weird at the time as his DD was older, but he said he'd just kept the things and hadn't bothered getting rid of yet.
Fast forward to 2024 and I randomly ran into him amongst 1000's of people at an event, we decided to start things up again. HOWEVER Facebook suggested him as a friend this morning and I have since done some digging.... He has 2 children, not one. Never mentioned the 2nd child, which turns out was born exactly when we met in '22. Should I confront him with this information? Why on earth would a cheater have this info public on FB lol. I've met his friends multiple times. So them knowing me didn't present a huge red flag in terms of him still being with her. Obviously I now feel played as some gullible side chick (gross). Even if they were separated (I truly hope so) and had a moment back together in 2021 before she fell pregnant with the 2nd, he was still dishonest and has never mentioned this 2nd child to me! Obvs him saying my ex just gave birth when we met would have made me run, so I understand why he hid that!! ewww.
I feel like I have to call him out on this! How can one really know the truth if he's single or not? Message the ex on FB? Good grief no. I do have some feelings now, which makes this really difficult. Never thought I'd be in this position. We share a lot about both our DD's lives too. I know the best thing to do is forget this person due to the dishonesty. What would you ladies do?
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Call him out or just block and move on?
HJ82 · 27/03/2024 16:14
kkloo · 28/03/2024 02:06
I'd have to call him out on it but if you want to hurt him back then the best thing to do is just tell him he doesn't do it for you anymore and then block.
Yoe · 28/03/2024 02:12
You know what I would do here . I wouldn’t invest 1% of my time or energy in this person either dating or calling him out . This is what I think you have to follow ur gut here but there are red flags … best of luck you are deserving of a nice trusting and fabulous relationship
Rockiepride · 28/03/2024 06:34
I’d always call people out for shitty behaviour. There’s too many of them that think they can get away with treating people as they please without any consequence
WandaWonder · 28/03/2024 06:39
What consequence? He has moved on so to me this proves the op hasn't
Rockiepride · 28/03/2024 06:34
I’d always call people out for shitty behaviour. There’s too many of them that think they can get away with treating people as they please without any consequence
WandaWonder · 28/03/2024 06:39
What consequence? He has moved on so to me this proves the op hasn't
Rockiepride · 28/03/2024 06:34
I’d always call people out for shitty behaviour. There’s too many of them that think they can get away with treating people as they please without any consequence
supercali77 · 28/03/2024 06:54
Yeah on something like that I'd absolutely call him out. Men on dating apps get away with sh*t far too often because they can hide things.
Although more than likely the only consequence of this with him is that he'll lock down his fb profile so any future dates he wants to lie to would never know his situation.
HJ82 · 28/03/2024 07:13
We are still dating. I’ve not told him I know yet. Still working out what to say… Obvs I’m moving on.
WandaWonder · 28/03/2024 06:39
What consequence? He has moved on so to me this proves the op hasn't
Rockiepride · 28/03/2024 06:34
I’d always call people out for shitty behaviour. There’s too many of them that think they can get away with treating people as they please without any consequence
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WandaWonder · 28/03/2024 07:20
So why on earth are you still seeing him?
HJ82 · 28/03/2024 07:13
We are still dating. I’ve not told him I know yet. Still working out what to say… Obvs I’m moving on.
WandaWonder · 28/03/2024 06:39
What consequence? He has moved on so to me this proves the op hasn't
Rockiepride · 28/03/2024 06:34
I’d always call people out for shitty behaviour. There’s too many of them that think they can get away with treating people as they please without any consequence
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