How old were you when you met your best friend

[iwantsunshine1]

I'm 36 and don't have anyone I am particularly close to but I struggle meeting new people now I'm older. Is there hope for me yet?

11... we're now 58

Same here!

37 and waiting :)

My OH is of course my very best friend and I’ve got several boy-friends who I can always rely on.

I don’t have 1 best friend. I have 5 people I trust implicitly and they will be lifelong friends. They are my closest friends.

11 for 2 of them at secondary school

17 met at 6th form

28 met at work

42 met at the school gate

I’ve got many other wider circle friends, but they don’t know me like my close friends.

I think it’s finding someone you click with. I’m a slow burn on making close friends though. It’s definitely not too late.

34 and 39.

I'm quite a travelling wilbury and work in a rather transient industry, so I've had lots of close friends come and go.

One at 17 and one 2 years ago ( mid 40s)!

I was 17, she was 16, we are still best friends in our mid 40s.
We've lived very different lives, often times thousands of kilometers apart, but still talk all the time and visit as often as we can.

About 26, been friends for 22 years. She worked with my now husband and I worked in a different department. She was the first person we told we were engaged, best person at our wedding and godmother to our first born. Lives 5 minutes walk down the rd. Hope we are friends for many decades to come.

I don’t have a best friend. I have a few very good close friends but find the “best friends” concept a bit childish.
Like something I grew out of end of primary school.

Haven’t had one since I was at school. I’ve gotten much happier in myself over the past few years and that’s been 100 times better than any friendship I’ve ever had.

11 x one of them
16 x two of them

11, I had just moved schools. The Head Mistress introduced me to her on my first day and suggested that we would make great friends. Boy, was she right.

40 years later, I love the bones of her. We’ve been through many, many amazing times and we’ve faced some very sad times together.

Not one cross word has passed between us. I feel we are blessed and I’m looking forward to many more decades of friendship.

My two oldest friends, we were 18-20 when we met at college. Though we’ve all moved away and lived abroad at various times, we have never lost touch in more than 40 years.

I made another close and lasting friend abroad in my 30s.

When I met DH in our 40s, our pool of friends doubled, and the wife of one of his closest friends became like a sister to me.

All those four are still my dearest friends, though we live quite far apart.

Overall, though, I found it easiest by far to make friends in my 20s. It’s become progressively harder since then. Though I still meet people I really like, it rarely develops into real closeness. People have their own circles already. And I’ve got lazier about it since I’ve been with DH.

I don't really get the concept of ranking my friends into who is my "best" friend.
I have quite a few really good friends.

From the one I 'knew' (though did we really???) through the fact we were at the same playgroup to a colleague I met when I was 45 who has become a very dear friend over the years. (She's quite a few years older than me though, if you are looking to answer if it is still possible for you to make very good friends when you are 36 and older.)

13 and 19 but they both very sadly died within the last 5 years in their early fifties.

I am also very close friends with women I have known since I was 5, 21, 32 and surprisingly a woman who I have met within the last year and we are both mid fifties. It feels like I have known her all my life.

Maybe but there are a lot of relationship/marriage break ups etc so often best friends become some of the most important relationships in a persons life later on again.

I have friends never had a bestie and perfectly happy not having one tbh as I get all rounded views from my group

2 friends Id call my closest, although I do have other close friends Ive also known many years. Met the 1st when i was aged 5. 2nd when i was 22. Im 60 now.

I met my group of close friends at university.

I don’t think 36 is too late though. Do you work? Do you have hobbies? Children? In any online groups? All good ways of meeting people if you want to.

23 met at uni.

27 - couldn't be without her and we speak daily.
17 - we don't speak every week sometimes it can be over a month but if I called her at any time needing her she would answer and be there and vice versa. Whenever we do speak we are on the phone for hours and it's like no time has passed at all.
11 - oldest best friend (22 years now!) and we are always there for each other even though life gets in the way with us meeting up.

I am very lucky to have these amazing women in my life.

I was 18 and 19. One at work during my gap year and one at uni in my halls. I’m now mid 30s. I have lived hours away from both of them for years but we’re in contact every week, meet up when we can (we all have young kids) and they were my bridesmaids. Two of us also have the same birthday!

I have still continued to make very close friendships into my 30s via work and through my kids.

4 - we were both only children and have been friends for 68 years now.

I have a very tight inner circle of best friends. Met one at 36 the rest at 53

I have 4 bestest friends:

1. My sister so forever ❤️

2. Since I was 8, he is my actual soul mate I think, the male version of me. I love him and he loves me totally and completely, exactly the way I am. We have never been in a relationship, but we care for each other very deeply.

3. When I 18 when I was doing my nurse training, she is THE BEST EVER! 🥰🥰

4. My husband, my rock, my safety and my home. He makes me laugh every single day. He is a fantastic daddy, he works so hard and puts up with me every day 😂