Husband staying at MIL house one day a week

[KellyP43]

Is it normal?
My friends husband visits his MIL & FIL house one evening a week after work. He will also sleep over there too. It’s his old family home and he uses the spare room which used to be his room. He’s 35.
She says she loves it because it gives them some space and it’s ‘her’ evening to chill/pamper, not do a ‘hubby’ dinner and watch shite tv.
What do you think of it?

So he's happy and she's happy and presumably the mother is happy.

I think if it’s what they are happy with it’s nobody else’s business.

Sounds good. Everybody's happy.

If it works, great. Good luck to them.

If everyone's happy, it's no one else's business whatsoever.

If it works for them, it is nothing to do with you, me or anyone else.

Not normal, no. For it to be normal it would have to be something lots of people are doing.

Is it a problem though? Only your friend and her husband can answer that.

Is it common?
no not really
but she’s happy, he’s happy, everyone is happy, who cares

It's unusual but sounds like everyone is happy with the situation.

What do I think of it?

I think they sound happy with the arrangement so good for them.

What do you think about it OP?

Sounds amazing! Your friend gets to just chill out in her own home once a week without needing to cater to anyone else.

Unless they have kids and it is leaving her with a lot of extra work, and it doesn't sound like this is the case, then it sounds like an arrangement that makes everyone happy. Space is healthy. Long may it last!

One of my friends dh does this. It started because he used to take the dc and when they got older and stopped going he kept going. He takes her to the supermarket and does any jobs she has and they go out for a meal or whatever.

Has your friend indicated it is an issue?

I would find it a bit strange yet & would expect my husband to come home to honest unless it was far, but provided he isn't leaving her with childcare duties and isn't out every other night so it isn't materially impacting quality time then it's ok.

Likely not appropriate if it's a Friday on Saturday night every week, or they have children...

Is your friend okay with you discussing her business online, especially as she is happy with the situation? I'd find it odd if my friend did this.

Is it normal?

Well, it's probably not typical but does that matter? It's normal for them.

Why is your problem with it? And why do you even have a problem with it?

They can do what they like.
I had a husband who did things like that.
Then he went for a week to study pre exams, away from me and the child.
Then I found out he was staying with his girlfriend.
Then, we divorced.

What do you think of it?

I don't think it's anything to do with you.

Or any of us.

That's what I think.

Sounds perfectly reasonable to me, as long as everyone is happy with the arrangement. I don’t think it’s particularly anyone else’s business to discuss 🤷🏼‍♀️

DH goes to MILs every 2 or 3 weeks. Very rarely stays. She’s 89 and he’s doing his bit, but she likes to have him around in the day, do jobs or shopping. He cooks or takes her out. She’s 2 hours away.

Why does this bother you, how is this your business? What a strange post..

His DM and DF?

Sounds good for everyone

When my other half goes out with his pals, he stays over at his parents home, it's closer to where they drink, saves on taxis, and I don't have any beer breath on me
Every couple of months I'd say, suits us fine!

It’s his old family home and he uses the spare room which used to be his room. He’s 35.

Hmmm, I've heard that as soon as you are 35 you must never sleep in a bedroom.

So four adults, who are the only people affected, are happy with this arrangement but you want to know what some strangers think of it?

Sounds like a lovely arrangement to me!