Husband staying at MIL house one day a week

[KellyP43]

Is it normal?
My friends husband visits his MIL & FIL house one evening a week after work. He will also sleep over there too. It’s his old family home and he uses the spare room which used to be his room. He’s 35.
She says she loves it because it gives them some space and it’s ‘her’ evening to chill/pamper, not do a ‘hubby’ dinner and watch shite tv.
What do you think of it?

To be commended in my opinion. Win win

They're both happy. No issues.

Sound.
If it works for them, great. I'd love it if my dh buggered off one night a week.

So the husband is happy, the wife is happy, and his parents are happy… why would people it in no way impacts on have an issue with it? And why would the people involved give a shit what people not involve think when it works for them?

Why do you care? It works for them so that's all that matters

Does he stay with his MIL and FIL, or his parents?? Cos the former would be really weird!

It's normal in that he's visiting his parents in a way that allows a supportive relationship between them as they get older, he stays over which presumably means less travelling and faff, and his wife is happy with the space she gets. So, while it may not be a common set up, it's utterly normal in that 4 adults have an arrangement that meets everyone's needs. People can be 'different' you know without being abnormal or wrong.

It's not likely that he has a childhood bedroom in his in-laws house.

Hi OP, I think your husband's your friend's husband's arrangement sounds fine as long as it's his parents he's staying round.

If it's actually his MiL's and FiL's house (although his FiL doesn't make it into the title of the thread... why's that?) then that is weird.

I mean, it's in the title of the thread AND the body of the post. Stranger shit has happened on MN!

Sounds like everyone wins from the arrangement.

I think it's none of your business.

Or would you rather...

Ooh sounds like he's boinking the secretary in a 3star cheap hotel down the road once a week every week. Clearly all is not rosey in their 'perfect' relationship. Poor her.

Unless <plot twist> his ILs happened to buy a house which was once his childhood home.

Or is it a gay couple so the OP's friend is male and it's his in laws and the husband's parents?

I wouldn’t mind my husband doing this. Quite like the idea actually. Superking bed to myself and I’d get to hog the dog for cuddles.

Nah - point is mother IN LAW and father IN LAW. Doesn’t matter if it’s a same sex couple or not. The husband is going to sleep in his MIL’s house.

It would matter, maybe, if actually the husband is suspected of having an affair with said MIL, which tbh is what I thought OP was getting at! All the other posters’ sensible answers made me hang my head in shame a bit, though…

It’s not that common but if they are both happy with the set up then that’s great. I’d probably enjoy a night to myself!

If it makes them happy, so be it. But if they have kids, I think that is pretty mean unless she also has a night away from them a week.

What stood out for me most was 'hubby dinner'. What the hell is that? He is 35, surely he chips in with the cooking and does his fair share? Maybe I'm reading unfairly between the lines, but do you see him as one of these useless man-child figures, who expects to be pampered by both mummy and wifey?