Just found messages on my husband's phone to a Mum from school. Nothing bad, just general chit chat, thought it's clear he had asked for her number as he said I will make sure I save you this time.
Just general chit chat, then him trying to joke with her. What strikes me is how prompt he replies and how much effort he made to engage. He does this with no one else. Only other time was years ago with a colleague where he admitted he just wanted some validation and attention. He can't even get back to his friends in a decent time!
The problem is, I suspected a few years ago she might fancy him and I told him this and said be careful, she had started messaging him at odd hours and he was engaging. Again, nothing inappropriate. I told him I found it strange, especially as she was more friendly with me and could have messaged me to ask same things.
He knows things are bad between her and her husband and she wanted to leave (I told him this). I told him I'm annoyed, to me it seems like he's trying to build up this friendship and he doesn't put the effort into anyone else. He then added her on Instagram. Am I being paranoid about this? I suspect a crush and him trying to act on it.
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Am I being paranoid?
tickle62636262 · 25/03/2024 22:06
TheSnowyOwl · 25/03/2024 22:08
Do you regularly read his messages?
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Southern68 · 31/03/2024 02:56
I would mention it to the other woman, and ask why she thinks it's ok to be messaging your husband, it might be enough to nip it in the bud, if she trys to trivialise it, ask if she'd like you to pop round and ask her husband for his number so you can message him at odd hours.
If you don't feel like you can do that, then tell your husband to answer her with, I dunno, ask (your name), and make it clear this is not the respectful behaviour from him that you have every right to expect.
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