I left my narcissistic emotionally abusive husband about 8 months ago. We have 2 children together so still in contact. At the start I felt great, empowered and positive about life.
At Christmas I had a wobble, he had the kids, I was alone I felt like I'd made a mistake. I actually begged him to take me back, he took great pleasure in telling me he didn't want me and that he'd moved on and met someone amazing. I'm so relieved he turned me down and I didn't go back there, that would have been a huge mistake and I'd of spent more miserable years with him until I had the courage to leave again.
However since that moment he's ramped up his emotional abuse and now the new girlfriend is involved. Warning me off her man, she's rescued him from the emotional wreck I left him, she won't allow me to set him back on his recovery from the abuse I subjected him too.
He only sees the kids every other weekend, picks them up 11am Saturday and drops them off 11am Sunday. He pays a token amount of maintenance, £500 a month less than what he should pay. Whenever I asked for stuff, he can't afford it despite being a high earner.
I'm starting to fight back, I've threatened using the Maintenance service if he doesn't pay. She then gets involved saying he gives them everything they need so stop being greedy.
I know it's all textbook narcissistic deadbeat dad stuff. I can imagine the stuff he tells her. I can rationalise it and talk myself down but it's exhausting. I'm so tired of it.
If you've been here, how do you cope?