What happened to your ex who didn't want kids?

[Joyjazz]

I broke up with my ex of 4 years who I loved very dearly because he couldn't commit to having children. I was 36 and almost immediately after the split I started fertility treatment as a single woman. Three years later, I'm now expecting my first baby as a solo mum (and I'm beyond excited). Although I would not change my situation, sometimes I wonder if I should have been more patient and waited in that relationship ...

What happened to your ex who didn't want children? Did they move on to have them with someone else? Are they currently without children?

He had children! 5 in 5 years practically.

I am an ex that did not want children and it caused my ex a lot of upset

I married a guy with a kid and I recently had a baby myself

One ex, a lovely man, never did have children.
Another, who I might have stayed with if he hadn’t been adamant that he wanted nothing to do with kids, met someone else soon after we split up and she was pregnant within a few months. They married, had at least one child, were very unhappy together and last thing J heard they were divorcing.
Actually I’m glad I didn’t stay with him. He had a really irritable temper. I hope his DC is better off without him.

Congratulations ! Well done you !!!

Do you know if you are having a boy or a girl ? or you wish to keep that to yourself.

I so admire a woman who knows what she wants / needs and goes and gets it ! I should think this has been a long journey to get to this stage. Which month is your due date - or would that be too telling ?

He died by drowning. Very sad but lucky I didn't have kids with him

As far as I know, on his own with no children. Makes me feel better as I was devastated but had to move on. I married and have 2 not so little babies 🥰

I called off my engagement when fiance announced that he didn't want children. It broke my heart but I didn't feel I had any choice.

8 years later I had ds but my relationship with his dad didn't last.

My ex-fiance lives about 20 miles away, still single. Sends me an email occasionally. Birthday card. The occasional text.

My ds is 15 now. The most joyous thing in my life. 😍

We have a shared extended friend group so I still see him occasionally. He hasn't had a relationship longer than a few months since we broke up 12 years ago. He has gotten even more vocal about hating children, even our other childfree friends find his rants completely OTT.

He moved in with a woman who had two under 10 and as far as I can tell is a very engaged stepdad.
I would have loved children with him but he threatened suicide when I had a pregnancy scare so really not an option.
Fortunately I married DH and we have two ourselves.

After a year or two he met someone else who also didn't want children. We're still friends.

He was a lovely man but didn’t want children so I ended the relationship , married someone and had 3 children very quickly . My marriage ended and I now parent solely .
He had another serious relationship where she wanted children and he didn’t .
then out of the blue he had a child at 50 with his wife of 10 years and then another at 54 .
I wouldn’t have waited that long !

Mine ended up with 3 kids !

He had a child with someone straight away though the relationship didn't last more than a few years.

I don't care I met my husband not long after and we have a nearly 10 year old.

The guy who didn't want kids was a loser anyway, massive debts and a horrible gambling addict. He nearly bankrupted me and put his next gf through hell. He's back living with his parents again now (we share friends still, so I unfortunately hear about him from time to time).

She is living the dream! In a happy relationship, retired young, splits her time between Devon, Australia and Bali. I am a broke, frazzled single parent who hasn't had an overseas holiday in the last decade. We both made the right choice for us 😃

Well...neither have had children, to my knowledge. And neither have I as I don't want them either.

You were right to leave because 'I don't want children' is not a negotiation starting point.

Thank you ☺️ Baby is a girl and she’s due next month. I can’t wait to meet her!

He met someone else 2 months after we split, married the year after, emigrated, and had kids.

I am an ex who didn’t want children with my first husband who did. He then married his secretary and never did have children as she wasn’t keen either after all.
I married my second husband (now divorced) and he had two children so I became a step mother. I found it really hard but I tried my very best.
I always knew I wasn’t a children person and turns out I was right.

We broke up in 2015 because he was a lying, cheating user, who bled me dry financially over a 3 year long distance relationship, and he's about to turn 30. Still no kids, but is with a girl 10 years younger whom he got with at 26 when she was still in her last year of highschool! (not sure if she was 15 or 16 already)

He was very vocal about hating the idea of being with women who had been with multiple men, which i assume is why he went for a literal schoolgirl. Crazy thing is, his own mother seems (via SM at least) to have been totally fine with it.

I didn’t want children with my ex of seven years and we never even discussed it so I’m not sure if he wanted children himself. He was older than me. He went on to have a couple of relationships but didn’t have children. He developed early onset dementia and sadly died aged 60.

My ex was much older than I and already had a teenaged daughter. He didn’t want any more kids, I didn’t either then but part of me didn’t want to completely close that door so I left him. Fast forward 6 years I met DH and had twins. He went on to have a son with his new (younger than me) partner. We’re still in touch and it seems to relish being an older dad.

He had a child before I did. Classic.

Was it him you didn't want children with?

I had an ex (older man, controlling/abusive) that was desperate to baby trap me straight away - I was 19 and definitely not ready for a baby. It took me 3 years to see the light after he raped me for the last time and I chucked him.

FF 7 years and I was with someone new that I wanted a baby with, a year later I fell pregnant and the ex found out via Facebook after I announced the birth (kept the pregnancy secret). I don't know his reaction but considering he went up to my husband in the pub previously and stated 'he wished he had treated me better and he should have never let me go' I would like to hazard a guess that he was upset.

If you wanted kids, why did you tell your ex that you didn’t? Or was it that you just didn’t want them with him?

hindsight is 20/20...

back then I thought I genuinely didn't want kids, I could not have imagined being a mother...and i definitely didn't want to be tied to him

to quote my aunt: she met a right guy and here's a baby