Hi, my gf always seems to follow the same pattern after she's been or said something nasty to me. It's basically
One: Pretend nothing happened
Two: when I mention she did something that hurt me she just repeats it all again to me.
Three: she then drags up old arguments from the past to justify her behaviour
Four: becomes abusive towards me.
It's always the same. She can never admit she did anything wrong, apologise or even say "I may have said some things I regret"
This week she tore into me on Sunday night for an hour and then on Wednesday made really nasty snide comments about my job. On Thursday I messaged her and said I found both occasions hurtful and that I'd appreciate if she withdrew her remarks. She replied to this
saying it was me controlling her and forcing her to say what I wanted and that I was only allowing her to speak when spoken to, that was her reaction to me saying I found the way she spoke to me disrespectful. She then started accusing me of cheating on her (I've never ever cheated on her) and then finished off by calling me a piece of sh1t and and an absolutely c*nt. All this happened because she couldn't admit she may have been nasty to me. At no stage did I swear or call her names and I stuck to the point. I can post the entire conversation here if people want it for context.
Thjs has happened numerous times and the same pattern repeats. Can anyone explain why someone who claims to love you would never acknowledge they may have hurt you and instead always react like this.