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The ick. Am I overreacting

59 replies

sweetstufflonndon · 23/03/2024 08:37

So my partner who in the past hasn’t exactly been a knight in shining armour when I needed him last night put up a post on instagram. The image was quite cheesy and cringy, of a cloked knight brandishing a sword a d looking steely and protective, and the post was about Kate Middleton. He basically went on a rant uncharacteristically swearing and being angry and talking about himself in the third person and offering to fight and knock out the teeth of anyone who had or was going to hound her in the future and it read to me like a man who was defending his woman..

Now I get that he’s a royalists and that what happened to Kate was and is terrible but what bothers me is that he’s previously told me on several occasions that Kate reminds him a lot of how his ex wife looked in her “hey day” (his words). I can’t help feeling that this over protective defending thing is linked to that and triggering something. Am I mad to make that connection? It’s just that it was so out of character and such a strong reaction that I can’t quite get my head around it.

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EleanorRigby2U · 23/03/2024 08:40

The post itself sounds insane, but I’m not a royalist so maybe I just don’t get it. Your reasons for being angry about it though sound like they come from a place of jealousy so I think I’d let it go if I were you.

misssunshine4040 · 23/03/2024 08:41

I just think it's weird to post anything like this regardless of who it is about.

I can understand why you are drawing parallels, shame he can't be so chivalrous towards you as is his to woman who doesn't know he even exists

sweetstufflonndon · 23/03/2024 08:41

I guess they do stem from there especially because of that and the fact that he has let me down in that regard previously. Thank you

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Lampslights · 23/03/2024 08:42

Yeah that’s weird, won’t lie, I’d worry for his mental health. That he even thinks like that. What an odd guy.

DrJoanAllenby · 23/03/2024 08:43

What a weirdo. I couldn't be with someone who blindly believes what the media tells him and then to go and post on social media what a 🤡 he is.

Sceptical123 · 23/03/2024 08:47

He sounds un-hinged. You can sympathise with strangers but he has no connection with her whatsoever. It would be understandable if it was a partner or relative (the wording would be OTT, but understandable he’s feeling emotional) but very, very odd he’s chosen to do this on a SM platform, unless it was done very late at night or under the influence of drink/drugs.

Does he usually behave like this? Sounds very unstable.

Sceptical123 · 23/03/2024 08:48

sweetstufflonndon · 23/03/2024 08:37

So my partner who in the past hasn’t exactly been a knight in shining armour when I needed him last night put up a post on instagram. The image was quite cheesy and cringy, of a cloked knight brandishing a sword a d looking steely and protective, and the post was about Kate Middleton. He basically went on a rant uncharacteristically swearing and being angry and talking about himself in the third person and offering to fight and knock out the teeth of anyone who had or was going to hound her in the future and it read to me like a man who was defending his woman..

Now I get that he’s a royalists and that what happened to Kate was and is terrible but what bothers me is that he’s previously told me on several occasions that Kate reminds him a lot of how his ex wife looked in her “hey day” (his words). I can’t help feeling that this over protective defending thing is linked to that and triggering something. Am I mad to make that connection? It’s just that it was so out of character and such a strong reaction that I can’t quite get my head around it.

So no you’re not over-reacting!

MiddleagedBeachbum · 23/03/2024 08:49

Would give me the ick!

DillDanding · 23/03/2024 08:49

How mortifying. People will think he’s an absolute tool.

MollyButton · 23/03/2024 08:50

I would have a massive and irredeemable ick from that I'm afraid.
And no need to rationalise, I'd just dump.
It's unhinged, misogynistic and ick
And if he's let you a real person down in the past then it's just fantasy and posturing.
And if he had a chance he sounds like a potential stalker for the Princess. (Of course it's all delusional as he's projecting his ideal woman onto her.)

Winter3000 · 23/03/2024 08:53

If you dump him now, you'll be shot of him in time for Easter.
That's what I would do.

ItsJustHowIAm · 23/03/2024 08:55

That is incredibly embarrassing.

Yikes.

Aquamarine1029 · 23/03/2024 08:57

Fucking hell, he sounds like an absolute nutter. Dump this weirdo already.

BatshitCrazyWoman · 23/03/2024 09:00

Yuck. I have the ick too.

opentoadvice88 · 23/03/2024 09:01

My vagina would snap shut forever.

betterangels · 23/03/2024 09:01

Winter3000 · 23/03/2024 08:53

If you dump him now, you'll be shot of him in time for Easter.
That's what I would do.

I mean, this.

Way to go making a woman's serious illness about him. What a knight.

He sounds insufferable.

hellsBells246 · 23/03/2024 09:06

Oh Lord, I'm cringing for him! What a tool.

Channellingsophistication · 23/03/2024 09:09

Really weird thing for him to do …

Lampslights · 23/03/2024 09:15

There is also a level of self importance to it. Like he thinks he’s the bloke to step in and protect the princess of wales and that people should know that.. If that’s not disturbing I don’t know what is. I’d say obsessive, low intelligence,and an odd ball.

Strugglingtodomybest · 23/03/2024 09:20

No, you're not over reacting, it's really weird and I'd be embarrassed if my DH had done this.

duende · 23/03/2024 09:21

He's going to put on his armour, grab the best sword, jump on his stallion and protect the princess' honour?

And I bet he does very little to make your life better in any way, even when no blood spilling is required?

Ick and cringe.

He sounds delusional, arrogant, and a bit thick to be honest.

Sorry!

Volbeat · 23/03/2024 09:22

In third person??? What the actual?

Tool in tin foil springs to mind.

Sceptical123 · 23/03/2024 09:22

Winter3000 · 23/03/2024 08:53

If you dump him now, you'll be shot of him in time for Easter.
That's what I would do.

😂👏🏻👍🏻

Axx · 23/03/2024 09:26

Hahaha. Definitely dump

TheCatOnMorrisseysHead · 23/03/2024 09:36

I'd dump him for the post alone because I'm cringing myself to death here just imagining it.

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