The ick. Am I overreacting

[sweetstufflonndon]

So my partner who in the past hasn’t exactly been a knight in shining armour when I needed him last night put up a post on instagram. The image was quite cheesy and cringy, of a cloked knight brandishing a sword a d looking steely and protective, and the post was about Kate Middleton. He basically went on a rant uncharacteristically swearing and being angry and talking about himself in the third person and offering to fight and knock out the teeth of anyone who had or was going to hound her in the future and it read to me like a man who was defending his woman..

Now I get that he’s a royalists and that what happened to Kate was and is terrible but what bothers me is that he’s previously told me on several occasions that Kate reminds him a lot of how his ex wife looked in her “hey day” (his words). I can’t help feeling that this over protective defending thing is linked to that and triggering something. Am I mad to make that connection? It’s just that it was so out of character and such a strong reaction that I can’t quite get my head around it.

Sorry Op
That is very strange

For me the ick comes from him being so unintelligent. How embarrassing.

Me too
He is not even my man and I feel embarrassed

I'd be running for the hills. Wtf, was he taking something?

I have the MASSIVE ICK on your behalf OP. Never mind the ex wife stuff, the post alone is enough to have me blocking him from my phone and my mind!

So cringe 😬 a grown man posting anything on Instagram is quite an ick in itself, but that…

Post is weird. (Has there been any cancer in his family that affected him?)

But main issue isn’t the post, it seems. You don’t trust him. You seem to be insecure and jealous about exW and it is probably causing all kinds of issues in the relationship.

Breaking up over an IG post is cringy in itself. But extracting yourself from an otherwise unhealthy relationship is understandable.

I mean him being a royalist is gross enough in my opinion, but the embarrasing post is the cherry on the ick cake! Wild behaviour

😂🫢 I agree definitely icky

I've got the ick and I don't even know him! You are not over reacting at all. Run for the hills.
That is so massively cringy and embarrassing 😬

No cancer that has affected him closely. Actually I do trust him, he’s never given me a reason not to, but I suppose if I’m honest hurt because he’s let me down when I was sick and vulnerable (nothing as serious as Kate’s cancer and hounding from the press obviously), and then he posted that about someone he’s never met and she looks like his ex wife. I guess that’s my stuff to deal with..and not his. Thanks for responding

The ex wife issue is irrelevant and really about you.

But overall, yes, this is icky behaviour. I know a man who used to do this sort of thing. I remember one particularly cringe worthy evening when he was talking all ominously ans aggressively about what would happen if he had 5 minutes with a child abuser who had been in the news....

Needless to say, he's an emotionally abusive man who, I am pretty sure, would be physically abusive if he could get away with it (and probably has been in the past. He had definitely threatened his partner).

For me its just another red flag in a long list I have developed my recognition of.

His post is doubly pathetic - because of the deranged royalist hyperbole, and because he’s feverishly portraying himself as a white knight when he refused to support you, his actual partner, at all.

Dump.

This. How embarrassing. Why do you want to be with such a 🤡. He doesn’t sound like the brightest tool in the box.

Euwweeww. Whatever the reason it’s cheesy and mad as hell. ICK X 1,000,000

😂

Honestly I think thr fact she may or may not look,like his ex is really a side bar here. As is the fact he didn’t support you, which is simply shit on its own and should be dealt with.

this is really about the fact he’s so utterly deluded he actually fantasises he’s the guy to protect Kate and tells the world. He obviously has some weird obsessive fantasy thing going on about her. And it’s nothing to do with his ex. Are you not going to end it? I would.

@sweetstufflonndon

Yikes he sounds like he could be potentially disturbed or something,
the kind of social media post he put up,

He sort of fantasies about a female figure about that he thankfully doesn't know about it,
he could be tumbling down into mental health rabbit 🕳 hole,

i would hot foot it out of the relantship as soon as possible,
before you end up as his emotional psychological convient scapegoat target sooner or later and the headwork shit show you will have to contend with mood swings instability deflecting gaslighting the full workes,
get out whilst you are not too deep in, and thankfully don't have any children by weirdo boyfriend,

in few years times,
it will be a distant a bit weird dream...

I have me doubts about him from the described Insta post, suggests to me that at best he has no real sense of what’s necessary and appropriate, but I suppose there’s a lot of it about on social media eh?

So maybe I could let the nonsense posting go (very big maybe) if he lived by his advertised heroism and wasn’t also a self-aggrandising hypocrite with zero self-awareness. What’s the point of aggressively fronting up online for a total stranger who doesn’t need him if he couldn’t GAF about the actual woman he has in her hour of need? Is he having a breakdown??

I don’t see your feelings about his drivel about the ex resembling Kate as particularly problematic either. Once again, people say stupid shit, and it sounds like you were letting that one go as well, but thanks to his own online antics you’re putting a few pieces together (obsessive thoughts + inappropriate behaviour + lack of support) and coming up with the inevitable conclusion - time to skedaddle. Find someone who thinks you’re a princess, OP (🧀)

I'm a royalist and quite frankly, his post sounds completely unhinged!

Write “😂😂😂” under the post and dump the embarrassing twat.

Bloke here! I would think he's an absolute tool! That's mortifyingly embarrassing behaviour.

This is often a telltale sign of a narcissist. They will throw the people they’re supposed to love under a bus but make a big show in public of defending strangers/helping out people on the outside of their family. Often making declarations of support on SM - all with the aim of showing what a great person they are.

They need to feed their ego with “kibbles” getting off on thinking people like them. Meanwhile the people who actually know them (usually their partner and children) don’t get any support or help.

I couldn’t be with somebody like this, it would turn my stomach.

Cringe.

I bet he also posts about being an alpha male. Probably accompanied by a picture of a wolf.

How off-putting to publicly (in his own sphere at least) put himself at the centre of the issues a woman is facing whom he has never met. In addition to not being reliable in real life. Kind of shows the idea of helping is more about his gratification than really being there

I don't presume to know how Kate is feeling personally but I am undergoing cancer treatment and i would not be comforted, impressed or gladdened to know some man is turning my health problem into an opportunity to posture online in this machoistic and rather violent way.

If he had been inspired to quietly make a donation or do something sponsored for cancer research because he'd been moved by the news, then that would be nice. Even post a simple good wish online or light a candle in church for her. But this is making someone else's difficulties all about him.

I just don't think it was in good taste at all.