What's your age range, and how old are you?

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And how old/young is too much. ?

I've recently met someone, IRL. Older than I thought, older than i would have put if i was OLD. It feels weird when I think about it, but it's not when I'm with him/talking.

I’m married so not in the dating game, but I think this really depends on the person and the ages you’re talking about, as well as the gender of each person.

For example if it was me and I was single now at 26, I wouldn’t be interested in a man older than probably 35 ish absolute max, BUT that doesn’t go the other way, I wouldn’t even think about a man any younger than probably 23/24.

Equally one of my best friends at work is 38 and has just got married, her husband turns 55 this year. A much bigger age gap but I think (and she always says) once you are older, especially once you’re both past the age of potentially wanting children, age doesn’t really matter so much.

I think if it feels right to you OP and this person makes you happy then age is just a number! X

Who you find attractive irl is very different to what you think you're looking for online in my experience. I've found men attractive irl that I probably wouldn't of matched if just going by age/picture. You have to be more shallow online as there isn't anything else to go by, you don't get a feel for personality and attraction. in theory I'd go for someone 5 years either side of my age.

I don't think age matters.

I think age matters if you are having kids. Example if you are 30 and they are 50. Two very different phases in life IME.

As long as you accept that the likelihood is that they will die well before you if the gap is big and that men can become absolute grumpy fuckers when they age, then go ahead.

I would personally stick with own age group now with hindsight.

My cousin is 33 and her husband is 50 this year. They met at university, he was a mature student. They look absolutely fine together, having been married since 2012.

I’m 30, and hypothetically (as I’m married anyway so not looking!) I would say 26-38. I wouldn’t be keen for a big age gap, as they often feel fine at the time but become markedly more noticeable and problematic as time goes on. When I was 20ish, I went with someone who was 15 years older than me and having bumped into him recently, 20-35 felt much less noticeable than the 30-45 it is now! Also it gives me the ick now that he was 5 years older than I am now and going for a just-out-of-her-teens young woman.

Age diff of nearly 5 years .. Dp is nearly 5 years younger as I’m 46 .. makes no diff as we as we both have kids from our prev marriage and have the same mindset, and want same things out of life. I do worry one day I will wake up and look older overnight but that is my insecurity thinking he might not find me attractive later in life 😔

I'm 43 (nearer 44 TBH). My range is 40-49. Can't bring myself to consider anyone 50 yet as agiest as that makes me.

I prefer younger so im 34 and my age range would be 26-36 online. I couldn't imagine dating someone much older than that. Maybe 37 at a push.

Maybe it's because so many just don't seem to take care of themselves at all though. But there's nothing to say there aren't plenty in the real world that do tbf.

Biggest age gap was 15 years (him being the older one, I was early 20s) and my current relationship is eight years (me being late 30s). The latter - and hopefully forever one - is a much better match for me.

Thanks all. We have both already had chikdren, not planning any more. I'm mud 40s, he's 15 yrs older.

@Pepsimaxedout it had recently occurred to me that if I was to do OLD I'd be having to consider over 50. That felt weird. So now, having met irl, without knowing ages, it's really odd to think he's older yet.
But, he's really nice, we get on well, kind, thoughtful etc etc..makes me feel good.

Also very fit and active.

I'm 38 and dating. Youngest I've dated is 31 and oldest is 44. Initially I didn't think I'd be interested in men younger than me but turns out I am 😂

I would consider going a bit older perhaps but the oldest men I have dated (42 and 44) seemed even older than they actually were in terms of personality/energy.

I already have kids but if I was looking to settle down and start a family I think I would aim for my own age or close to it.

I'm 52 and would look no younger but up to 69.

At 35 doing OLD I debated putting an upper limit of 40 but went with 42 and lucky I did as DH was 42 and me 35 when we got together. I realised that things like no previous children, living close together so able to merge our lives together were more important than being very close in age. I wanted children so that did factor into it for me at that time. If I hadn't wanted children I'd have been open to a bigger age gap.

I'm 56. Most of my previous partners have been several years younger than me. I don't think I'd be happy to date much below 50. That being said, having read some of the depressing threads on here I'm pretty happy being single!

I’m 45 and my age range would be around 42-49 but only if the person was also at the same life stage as me eg children almost adults, settled in career and the area they live. A 42 year old with toddlers would be a no for example.

I am 40. My age range on old is 38-48. I inadvertently matched with someone who was 52 recently (their age wasn't visible) and although he seemed nice our life stages were miles apart (he was planning for early retirement with grown up kids, I have primary age kids and will be working for another 20+ years).
I do think though that if I met a 50 year old in real life and we were more similar in lifestyle/stage, there was an attraction and we shared values, then that sort of age gap wouldn't put me off.

I think age does matter! I'm 53 and my age range is 48-56. So many men lie about their age that most 48 year olds are actually 55! OP, I wouldn't want to be with someone 15 years older than me now!

I recently went out with someone who is 59 - it felt really old to me. He was close to retirement with children much older than mine and much less fit than me (I am finding that women do look after themselves better than the men).

47 F. I'd date 42 up to a max of 54 or 55.

I'm 36 and my fiancé is 50. We'll be 37 and 51 when we get married. I don't think it really matters. We compliment each other nicely despite 14 years between us.

I think it's more about maturity and stage of life, like being ready to settle down and have kids. Me and DH have a 4 month age gap. I'm 42 and probably wouldn't date anyone over 50 or under 35 but it wouldn't be a dealbreaker if I really liked them

Of course age matters.
At 45 - you may find a 60yo still attractive…
But at 55 - will you really still fund a 70yo attractive?

Age difference becomes more pronounced with age.

I think it really does depend on the people involved, especially how fit/active they are.

The two people I've been most attracted to in my life were 16 years older and 11 years younger. I don't think I ever really considered anything like marriage with them though, so that wasn't an issue. They were more like wild wonderful but quite lengthy flings.

Now I am older (50) I think the age gap has narrowed and very much depends on the person. Can't image ever being with someone as young as 39 or as old as 66. Think my age range would be more like 43 to 57 (so +/- 7) at the outside but that would be for a partner rather than a fling.