Dating guy for couple of months red flag

[jinx1986]

Been dating a guy seeing him for a couple of months. Lovely guy but then if we have a drink he will push me. Last night he stood over me and I playful pulled my tongue out. And he clapped his hands across my face. So each hand his my ears. He did it that hard it felt like a flash in my eyes. A few weeks ago we went out with friends and he pushed me jokingly I didn't fall. But then later on I went to give him a kiss and he pushed me to the ground.

I've spoke to him about it and he shrugged it off like it's nothing and he was drunk.

I'm going to end it with him. I really liked him but I feel it's more when I told him he laughed it off. Made it out like i was being overly sensitive,

I don't think I'm asking for advice I think I just needed to tell someone. I've been in an abusive relationship just trying to spot things early on. 😞

Via text was more than fine op. He deserves not another moment of your time. Don't let him have opportunity to abuse you over the phone. Block and delete all messages... Hell I ended a marriage by text as it was the safest option.

And well bloody done. You should feel proud you have taken the correct steps... Don't second guess anything about him. He sounds quite dangerous...

Well done for spotting the signs and ending it after two months
Please be careful now as he wouldn't have taken rejection well don't hesitate to call police if he turns up

You've done really well to end it quickly. Congratulate yourself on dealing with this and recognising the signs. Now block him on everything so he can't give you any hassle. X

As soon as an abuser lifts hiss hands get out straight away don't wait to end it text him now as and tell him you're finished

Well spotted.
You don't need to tell him in person and you don't need to tell him why, a very clear message that you're not seeing a future relationship so you're ending it here

All abusers are charming sometimes

It does add up, he is either using the alcohol as an excuse for his behaviour, or the alcohol removes his already low barriers for abusive behaviour. Either way he bloody well knows what he is doing and it is bad news for anyone, ie you, thinking of staying in a relationship with him.

Just spotted your update, well done.💐

You don't owe abusers the courtesy of a face-to-face breakup. He lost the privilege of that courtesy when he raised his hand to you.

Said I would ring to explain he said don't bother so I won't.

He knows full well why.

Thank you, I've blocked him he did give me a hard time last night messaging he got drunk telling me I didn't even give him a chance.

I've blocked him he doesn't know we're I live just the area. If he did find out I would ring the police.

Lucky escape thanks for advice. I'm sorry some of you have been in awful abusive relationships.

Do not stay with this animal, the first time he pushed you should have been a warning in itself. This man will only get more violent. He’s not a lovely guy, he’s abusive and could be dangerous.

You poor poor thing, so glad you know this is wrong and have the bravery to say no thanks to that. What an absolutely vile abusive excuse of a man he is

@jinx1986 Just read your update! Welcome and very happy you are safe x

Well
done!