My B/SIL is driving me and hubby absolutely nuts!
For many, many years, they have kind of "copied" what we have done or said we want to do, etc.. Sounds mad, but it was things like if we said we were planning a trip to Northern Scotland to do the NC500, suddenly they would do it... That kind of thing. We ignored it until covid hit, and then everything just went pete tong.
I started a business, very niche.. Only 1 other business in the city did this particular service.. Within 3 months, she started up the very same business! When questioned, she said she didn't know I'd started the business up, which is complete lies. Then, there have been instances of her buying tickets to concerts that we are going to or booking holidays to places we have been, we bought a car in Oct, suddenly they need a car in Nov! I got my hair dyed half copper (dip dye), and she got hers half red... Exact same style but in a different colour. I had my nails done in red with reindeer for Christmas. She got the same design but shimmery red instead of glittery red. We had booked a landscaper to do our garden and suddenly 2 weeks later, low and behold they are doing their garden!
We have now stopped telling anybody what we are planning or what we have done, we don't post on Facebook, etc. We feel like everything we do or plan to do, they copy, and its driving me absolutely crazy.
Am I crazy? It's really starting to freak me out a bit, tbh and it's causing issues within the further family. We had arranged to go and visit an aunt in another part of the country, BIL, then asks if they could come on that same day as they wanted to see her on that date! It was a random date we selected around work commitments.... nothing special such as a birthday, etc.
Hubby & I have massively distanced ourselves over the last few years, but it's still happening. Always a competition for mothers Day or Christmas, who buys the best gifts for the in laws etc and I just can't cope with it anymore.