Have I been ghosted

[Ash2345f]

I went on a 2nd date on Sunday with a guy I have mutual friends with, it went really well he stayed over as we both had drinks. He left the following morning we both said good bye kissed etc it was great. He then text me when he got home he said he had a great time and I was ‘class’ I text him later that day and got no response I put this down to him being a little hungover. So I text him today around 11am just saying hope you’re over your hangover I have some unexpected free time tonight if you want to meet up. I have heard nothing i am so confused given the feedback post date….am I now being ghosted?!

It sounds like he text back within 48 hours of your initial message, unless I've got my timings wrong.

I'll admit it's been a couple of decades since I've dated but that doesn't seem too bad to me, I wouldn't be expecting instant responses after 2 dates. A couple of months into a relationship it would be right off, but it seems early to be that desperate to get a text back.

Sounds like too much hard work to me.

What reason did he give for going quiet?

So I replied yesterday to said message no response again 🤣 needless to say he has been archived and deleted what on earth was the point of that

With kindness OP, I think asking to meet up the next day after you'd just spent Sunday through to Monday would be a bit much for a lot of people. Either male or female. It certainly would have thrown me off guard and maybe even have given stalkerish vibes as too much too soon.

I don't know what he does for work, but a lot of people can't use their phone at work sometimes due to meetings, forgetting their charger or 1000 other reasons. So sometimes full access to phone at all times and others limited to no access for hours at a time. The instant text back isn't a sign of ghosting at face value. Multi texts without a response can be off putting to a lot of people and that can cause a super slow response/ghost. People have lives. Maybe that's what happened here. Chill out, give folks time to respond and see how things go.

Reminds me of a long time ago when I was OLD. I work in a profession where I'm away from my phone for as long as 8-10 hours per day some days. Some days full access. I was a few dates in with a fella that I really fancied. I'd had to leave my phone at work and I was offsite for the day. We weren't allowed our phones with us. I came back to my office around 6:30pm after a long, stressful day. Opened phone to find 4 texts from him. 1st text in morning asking if I wanted to meet up that night following with 3 more texts throughout the day playing out a whole 'if you aren't interested in me, you could just tell me and not ghost me' and some such. I didn't ghost him that day, but I did respond what happened and wished him luck because I was done. Shame as I really fancied him. If he would have just given me time to respond, I would have gone out with him that night.
My point is, give someone time to respond. Maybe ghosting or maybe not. Just live your life, give people time and hope for the best.