Is it worth forking out for a dating app like match

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Just had my fingers badly burned on hinge. Is match or any of the others any better.

No

Oh god!

It tends to he the same people on all of them.

I used to use Match and occasionally dipped into PoF. Many of the same faces and my experiences weren't any better on Match.

Nope. I paid for match and something else awful that a friend of a friend had had luck with. Eharmony maybe??
Save your money.
Use bumble or hinge.

It’s not worth being on those apps for free, let alone paying to be exposed to the ‘men’ on there…

its so shit

I met my ex on match and he was absolutely awful. I'm actually deeply ashamed about ever dating him, I can only assume I was vulnerable and in the midst of some kind of crisis.

At least with Tinder you're not paying for the privilege.

The problem with all the apps is the men on them!

It depends on the platform, I joined more of a dating agency type one as all people were vetted, so everyone had their identity checked, dbs and a clares law check. So while people could still be awful, they were who they said they were etc. It’s how I met my husband.

Can you go out and meet people in real life? I find it better to meet men socially when you can get to know each other and are not someone they've put into the 'would shag'/'wouldn't shag' box based on a few photos alone?

I met my partner of 4 years on Match .: however yes I agree most of same faces on dating apps, I did speak to some quite dodgy men in the process. I did go on a few dates and met 2 decent blokes where nothing happened but we are friends now. Scarily enough it was the younger men ( at least 15 years younger than me) were the ones who behaved better and older men not so much! I ended up falling for my Dp ( 4 years younger) and very happy. It does take alot of work l!

That's true. Dated loads of complete losers online but then met my current boyfriend of 4 years at a pub karaoke night.

I would say yes. I tried bumble and tinder and didn't get anywhere - nothing in common or only after one thing so paid for e harmony spent ages doing the profile stuff properly and DH was my first date off there. No guarantees obviously but for me it worked out - that was 6 yrs ago.

Why did t I think I of that?🤔

Not worth paying for any of the dating apps. I'm refusing to pay at all now after paying for Tinder, Match and Bumble on and off. Same men. Most are awful.

I definitely think meeting someone in Tesco would be better!!

Save your time and money, the only people who do well out of those site are the business owners.
More chance winning the lottery.
I think going on an evening plumbing or mechanics course is a better idea, you can gain new skills as well as meeting new people.

God no. I paid for a month on Ourtime - the 50+ section on Match and it was without doubt the worst £40 I ever spent.

Unless you’re looking for a flabby pasty faced man wearing a hi viz vest and giving off Norman Barr’s vibes in which case it’s he place to find him 🤣

But it did give me the worst ever message from OLD when a hugely overweight man who looked like he’d not seen sunlight in decades asked if I wanted a no strings BDSM weekend - I had to decline as he just lived too far

Update, I met a fantastic guy yesterday on hinge!

I met dp on a paid for app, definitely worth every penny. Far fewer matches but were better basically

I met my partner of 2.5 years on Hinge.
I was online dating (on & off) for 4 years on lots of sites. Never paid.
Met some absolute bellends.
I think they're everywhere.
Don't give up 😉

I pay for match and still yet to chat to anyone who isn't looking for sex or weird !!! Same men looking for rhe same thing sadly...

I met dh on Match 8 years ago, my other serious boyfriend before him came from match too. I found the other free apps were busier and I had more dates from in the likes of tinder etc but actually the more relationship minded were on match as well. I would say cast your net wide on all the apps

Joined bumble in January. Met a guy a month ago, apps deleted and we're exclusive. Just gotta keep going and don't ever settle

I tried match. I found it complete garbage. I had more luck on pof but i stopped dating for a few years after pof and I went on to match more recently thinking a paid app would have more serious contenders. I was so wrong 🤣

I think it’s just the way of the dating world now, flakey, avoidant people looking for an ego boost that never actually want to meet up. Maybe I’ve been unlucky 😩

I think it’s the paradox of choice as well, the swipe culture doesn’t help because it makes people constantly on the look out for the non existent ‘’perfect’’ partner and reluctant to spend time getting to know people in a more personal way.

I think eharmony might be the one that locks people into contracts for 18 months or so? I'm sure some people have posted on here before about it to warn people.