How does your sibling relationship look like?

[bell1989]

I have two sisters and two brothers. We're close on the sense that when we get together we get along great. We don't see each other often or speak everyday as much as I would like to. But they are not like that.

1older sister, ten year age gap. She's been jealous of me and resented me since I was born, and my mum has spent the last 40 years, since our dad died, trying to make up for it. I spent 35 years letting myself be sacrificed for this, assuming my mum would have my back if I needed it. I did, and she didn't so I'm very lc with them both. If I have to be in contact with her I feel desperately I'll. Luckily (!) she has recently treated friends of mine badly so they understand what I've gone through and why I will be changing my number once my mother dies.

One younger sister who is the golden child. She is an entitled, manipulative CF. She expects people to adore her and constantly treat her. There is badmouthing, rude comments, there are crocodile tears all the time, playing the victim. I avoid her like the plague and even moved countries to be far away from her. I see her a few times per year when I visit my family and I have to.

One DB 3 years younger. Argued lots as kids but haven't lived together since I left for Uni. Much closer as adults, or so I thought. Since the death of our DPs, and a huge betrayal of my trust, I doubt I'll see him again. Xmas cards only. According to my DCs he's living his best life on SM (which I'm not on - apart from here). He has to live with his fake self. I'm saddened, as I did love him dearly but I don't like or trust him any longer.

I’m one of three, definitely a case of three being a crowd. The other two are really close, I get on with them but we only really talk to arrange Christmas

Oldest brother is a massive loser who has destroyed people and relationships throughout his life. I’m the last family member to stay in touch with him. I just feel no-one should have no-one. We speak about every three months, always initiated by him. I’m friendly to him. I think it’s what my mum and dad would have wanted from me.

I’m fond of my other brother and we work well together when needed. He’s a very stressy person though so I don’t tend to reach out to him.

Neither brother has ever expressed any concern for me nor offered support when I needed it. They are a disappointment to me.

1 brother 7 years younger than me. When he was a baby i would change his nappy and bath him, teen years id drive him everywhere and cover for him to my parents. Now, we speak everyday, meet up twice a week. Couldnt live without my brother. My best friend.

As Cantabulous said that hers is a disappointment, I only have one and unfortunately they are a disappointment too. Both full siblings who grew up together in the same house but completely different in looks and personality. There is an age gap too so it was like we grew up in the same house but didn't really take anything much to do with each other. I have no fond shared memories of remember when we did that or remember when this happened etc. I don't think my parents really did much to encourage a relationship between us either.

Anyway now, both married, both have kids. Takes zero interest in me or my kids. Last time I saw him was at a funeral. He has been zero support to me in my life. I think about 90% of the time I feel like I am an only child but then there were recent events like big birthdays and anniversaries and I was like, oh God I have to contact him were he proves to be stubborn, difficult and wants everything his own way. Instead of working with you, he would work against you.

We are at the stage of parents getting older. My DH has a parent that is now needing significant care and he has a sibling and they work really well together and are a great support to each other. My parents are relatively OK for their age but I am dreading anything happening were either of them are needing long term care as I would find it very difficult to work with him. He just completely rubs me up the wrong way. I can't see us having a relationship after my parents pass unfortunately as he wouldn't contact me and he doesn't bring anything to my life for me to contact him.

I have often wished for a second sibling who was more on my wavelength and was a support to me but unfortunately it never happened.

My lovely sister lived just up the road from me (next door to my mum!)

We see each other casually in the street or round my mum's a couple of times per week most weeks. She does my school run (as my kid goes to same school as hers), I have helped her out with other things in the past. We have holidayed together over the last few years. We get along really well and we'd help each other out at the drop of a hat.

If she wasn't my sister we probably would have nothing in common but she is and I love her and thoroughly enjoy her company!