You can hate 'till your blue in the face, it may well help stop people like me being prepared to speak up and try and de-mystify the condition for others, but it wont make all of us abusive no matter how you paint it.
My mother was a severe squalor hoarder who ultimately couldn't chose between her children and her mental illness. Yes she was abusive but also very very ill.
I've met hoarders whose behavior amounts to abuse. I've also met plenty of organized and hidden hoarders, often in storage, were no one seeing their homes would have a clue they were suffering this condition.
It is only relatively recently that my home has visibly contained too much for the space we have, even then it is shelved and organized, and clean with normal living space available. (TBH right now we have building work so look like anyone else having to decant several rooms into temporary storage)
Food cupboards are labeled and rotated (a clue- that I need to) fridge clean and normal. Floors clean, friends coming and going. My childhood ensured the need for cleanliness and organization is high. My inbox however, tells it's own story.
Prior to Covid I had a separate workplace which is where my hoarding silently grew. I also have storage because I have worked hard to keep my illness from impacting on my family as best I can. Now I have to work from home the contents of my workshop have to be at home.
Most of us have serious shame and self loathing about not being 'normal.'
Your hatred and claims that all hoarders are abusive is just wasted energy, punching down. It's like claiming all schizophrenics are violent and you hate them. As with all conditions some fit stereotypes and some don't.
There's many very ordinary women on this board fighting this condition, and others living with them. You don't have to like, but you don't have to try and normalize hatred for people with a MH condition either. It helps no-one.