If You're a Mum tell your Partner now what you want for Mothersday

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Just that really. Just a little reminder to tell your partner what you would like on Mothers day.

I know for many that will be something simple like hand made cards from your young kids. So tell your partner that because likely that's not what he would want and so it's not in his mind right now.

Why not just by whatever you would lile yourself and save the poor little lamb from having to do any thinking/make any effort. Fgs!

I've never had to do anything of the sort with my DH.

He's always got up with the kids and helped them make cards and breakfast in bed, then he's cooked a roast dinner for me and both our mums.

Really... its not that complicated that it requires hand holding a fully grown adult to get a gift - i would think that these men have met the mother of their children before and should have some sort of general clue what she likes??

I would imagine that 99% of women would appreciate a card - either bought or made - with writing or scribbles from the actual child inside, either flowers, choc, book or candle would cover most people. I don't think that there is many mums out there secretly wishing or expecting a infrared lazer gun or a 18th century cannon ball replica?

Honestly, are we now at the point where partners are not expected to put in a bare minimum fucking thought anymore

I offered to take charge of my own Mother’s Day gifts this year. They’re fab (but very niche) and am looking forward to acting surprised on Sunday.

im not interested in someone that pulls out all the stops on Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day etc. I expect to be valued and supported all year round.

Why. My H and Kids are perfectly capable of sorting things out and doing a good job. He doesn’t need spoon feeding

I married a fully grown, effective adult.

But yes, if people didn't, please tell him rather than get nothing if it bothers you. Ask for what you need in life generally.

Dh and dc forgot Mother's Day last year. They felt bad about it and this year Dh has been organised.

Why can’t they ask? It’s a day to appreciate what mums do. Why can’t partners who are unsure just ask? What would you like to do, Sunday?

My kids are no longer children and I'm not his mother but I'll drop in to see my mum after my shift. Probably stay over and sleep in my old room.

Oh God, just look at the comments😂

How many threads are started on MN that say, DP hasn’t got me anything for Christmas/my birthday, Mother’s Day and so on. The majority of the comments ALWAYS tell the OP to communicate what she’d like so that she isn’t disappointed when she’s met with nothing.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this post. As you can tell by the 1000s of threads started on MN, some men clearly do need to be reminded

My 12 year old dragged my husband to Lidl on Saturday evening after he and I walked around there following our walk, and he spotted some things in the middle aisle he thought I'd like. We'll.... he told me he thought a crepe maker would be perfect for me at the time, I told him I'd rather have the neck massager if spending that sort of money as a crepe maker would never get used (I can make them in a pan easily enough, what he actually means is he wants me to make pancakes more often).

Pretty sure I've got a crepe maker coming for Mother's Day. 🤦🏻‍♀️

But at least out of my 3 kids one of them made the effort to think of something he thought I'd like, and get his dad to take him out to buy it for me.

I hate that I always put the effort in to think of gifts people would like - but for anything for me I just get asked "what would you like" so he can take brownie points for buying something I like - yet after 20 years of marriage, 24 years together, he can't choose anything for me himself.

I'm not usually a gushy person so a 'happy mothers day' is usually well received. However pregnancy hormones have the better of me this year and for some reason I really want a mug that says some variation of mum on it presented to me by my darling toddler. Don't ask why, because I don't know but I really want one. Anyway, I have communicated this to dh and he looked at me as if I was playing a joke on him so let's see what happens Sunday!

What if you are a single mum??? Who has to buy the mother's day stuff then??? 🤔🤔

I’m guessing the single mum if the kids aren’t old enough…. But that’s not what this post is about. I’m guessing OP has made this post after seeing women complaining their DH won’t sort anything for Mother’s Day

Understanding and then communicating your needs in a way that will be received well is a valuable life skill which can be used not just in prep for mother's day!

LOL at all the posts saying But why would I do that. Knowing that on Monday MN will be full of threads from unhappy mothers complaining about mothers day.

So in the run up to Father’s Day we should all refuse to engage our brains and only get our children’s fathers anything if they explicitly give us instructions?

It’s ridiculous that the bar for men is set so that you have to basically coach your husband to remember to get a you a Mother’s Day card or to actually know you well enough to know what you like. And you are somehow to blame for being upset if he doesn’t because you failed to issue the correct instructions.

We (as a society) need to stop infantilising men and hold them responsible for their own failings.

Just buy your own, problem solved, how do you think lone parents manage?

My DH would be offended if I told him what to do for a special occasion he is more than capable of making an effort for me, as I would for him. My adult sons don't need babying either. Why is the bar set so low for men?

I’m not sure operating as if you’re a lone parent because your husband is too useless to remember a well-publicised annual event is the answer in life.

I always get gin which is what I want anyway.

My dad, in his 80s, still reminds me. Some men are, and always have been, capable of remembering and making sure mum gets something.

Nope. Dont need to.
Dh will get me a present as will my dds.
No one will have to be reminded. They were reared to mark each others birthdays and special days.
Its called respect.

Give your kids a tenner each when you're in Asda with them and tell them you'll meet them at the checkouts in ten minutes. That's what I did with mine!

I would get gin, which is fine but I can't be arsed to drink at the moment.

I have a wishlist a mile long in my head but DH would never guess what's on it, so I've let him know what I want rather than get something nice but generic.