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Partner jealous of my kids???

37 replies

twinkle2525 · 03/03/2024 18:05

Hello I really want peoples takes on this

I'm 32. I have 2 teen girls I had when I was young.
And I have a 5 yr old boy I had obviously a bit later.
I have a new partner (2 years together)
He's good to all of us and is fond of the kids he gets on best with the girls maybe because they are older?
However it seems to be coming apparent he has some kind of issue with my boy.

We live apart we have our own houses. Sometimes I stay there. Sometimes he stays with me. Any nights we're apart, my 5 year old boy will take full advantage & sneak in bed with me which I don't mind. We both love it. He's a real mummy's boy.

My partner said he should not be allowed to sleep in my bed ever?? I put him straight and told him not to comment etc.
there's been a few issues like this lately.
Today, during conversation I said if I had anymore children I'd love another boy (just conversation)
And his reply was.,, if we had a child together, he wouldn't be spoilt like my son and he went on to say he'd teach our child not to be a little snitch like him too !!
He's also made snarky comments if my boy has been off school poorly or whatever that his children will be sent to school come what may.

I feel this is a final straw for me as it's totally un called for and I feel totally offended if I'm honest.

For the record, my boy is well behaved. He has lots of energy like any 5 yr old but he is extremely loving and cuddly as that's how I've raised all the kids with pure love & togetherness.
May I add my partner has no children & no experience of being a parent.

I feel he's got it in for my son. Maybe jelous that my son is the most needy of me because he's so young.
Honestly I'm so angry. Am I being over the top??

Xx

OP posts:
Aquamarine1029 · 03/03/2024 18:07

He sounds like a fucking idiot. Get rid of him.

twinkle2525 · 03/03/2024 18:08

Thankyou I actually agree

OP posts:
Watercolourpapier · 03/03/2024 18:10

He would be out that door so fucking fast. Who does he think he is talking about your innocent little boy like that?

Id also be worried about why he gets on better with your teenage girls. That seems a bit weird.

SamW98 · 03/03/2024 18:13

Get rid now and certainly don’t have a child with this immature jealous man child.

If he moves in he’ll get far worse. Kids come first before blokes - always

OhcantthInkofaname · 03/03/2024 18:24

He would send an ill child to school. That would be enough for me.

SilentlyCorrectingYourSpelling · 03/03/2024 18:30

Oh if it were me he'd be out on his arse! Jealous of a little boy? What an absolute prick.

IncompleteSenten · 03/03/2024 18:32

No you are not.
He needs to get the boot.

DarkDarkNight · 03/03/2024 18:36

He would be out of my life by now, and more importantly out of my son’s life. What does he mean by calling your son a little snitch? That is such a red flag. Is he talking about your son telling in his sisters or in your partner?

What are you doing even considering having a child with this man? If you do you know your little boy’s life would be hell, he would become the scapegoat and treated so unfavourably, you can see that coming a mile off.

instantick · 03/03/2024 18:55

twinkle2525 · 03/03/2024 18:05

Hello I really want peoples takes on this

I'm 32. I have 2 teen girls I had when I was young.
And I have a 5 yr old boy I had obviously a bit later.
I have a new partner (2 years together)
He's good to all of us and is fond of the kids he gets on best with the girls maybe because they are older?
However it seems to be coming apparent he has some kind of issue with my boy.

We live apart we have our own houses. Sometimes I stay there. Sometimes he stays with me. Any nights we're apart, my 5 year old boy will take full advantage & sneak in bed with me which I don't mind. We both love it. He's a real mummy's boy.

My partner said he should not be allowed to sleep in my bed ever?? I put him straight and told him not to comment etc.
there's been a few issues like this lately.
Today, during conversation I said if I had anymore children I'd love another boy (just conversation)
And his reply was.,, if we had a child together, he wouldn't be spoilt like my son and he went on to say he'd teach our child not to be a little snitch like him too !!
He's also made snarky comments if my boy has been off school poorly or whatever that his children will be sent to school come what may.

I feel this is a final straw for me as it's totally un called for and I feel totally offended if I'm honest.

For the record, my boy is well behaved. He has lots of energy like any 5 yr old but he is extremely loving and cuddly as that's how I've raised all the kids with pure love & togetherness.
May I add my partner has no children & no experience of being a parent.

I feel he's got it in for my son. Maybe jelous that my son is the most needy of me because he's so young.
Honestly I'm so angry. Am I being over the top??

Xx

sorry, not even read any of it other than the fact you have children and your partner is jealous, step parents are evil!

SecondUsername4me · 03/03/2024 18:57

Why would you be with someone who clearly dislikes your 5 yo?

Branleuse · 03/03/2024 19:04

He's a prick. Jealous of a little boy.

Catoo · 03/03/2024 19:07

In the bin with this one.

Leftphalange100 · 03/03/2024 19:10

Any doubts, bin him. Protect your son

StrawberryWater · 03/03/2024 19:12

He sounds like the type of man you hear about on true crime podcasts.

Seriously who the f is jealous of a 5 year old. Get rid of him now before he gets worse.

Pablothepalm · 03/03/2024 19:19

SecondUsername4me · 03/03/2024 18:57

Why would you be with someone who clearly dislikes your 5 yo?

This!! With bells on.

You are right to be guarded. Your poor son, he probably feels that your BF dislikes him. Please, please choose your son and ditch the BF/twat!!

twinkle2525 · 03/03/2024 19:51

I've dumped him. I've blocked him and told him he's no good for my kids.
I just laid on my bed having a quiet tear.. and my 5 year old came in with a box of chocolates from downstairs for me and cuddled me and he has zero idea that he just confirmed my decision.

I loved my partner so so much and I'll really miss him. But the burning mother's love inside me takes over. My son is and will always be the strong man in my life & my job in life is to make sure he grows into the best husband and daddy ever.
I can't stop crying
But guess who's in my bed tonight?? My baby boy!! And he bloody can be when he's 30 if he likes!!!!!! Xxxxxxx love to all of you for your advice

OP posts:
Catoo · 03/03/2024 20:12

Oh well done OP.
What a 💩 he was saying those things.

You’ve saved your little boy so much hurt and upset from a future with a man who resented him. Good work!

💐

Obeast · 03/03/2024 20:24

Do extensive work on your standards before inflicting any other boyfriend on your kids. in future, why not just date separately to your kids?
It's not in their best interests to have some shitty unrelated male around.

DarkDarkNight · 03/03/2024 20:32

Good for you for getting rid. This is such a good thing for your daughter’s as well to show them you have self-worth and won’t accept this crap.

InspectorGidget · 03/03/2024 20:39

How dare he criticise your parenting when you've raised your girls so well (he seems to have no issue there....).

You've shown your boy what a strong women is and how not to treat them.

Of course you are sad and thats understandable. It's 2024 not 1950 so to think these men may have evolved isn't too much to hope for.

Sending Flowers

chrisfromcardiff · 03/03/2024 20:51

twinkle2525 · 03/03/2024 18:08

Thankyou I actually agree

Off he goes. If he has any of his things at your home, I would bag them up , leave them on your doorstep and tell him to come get them. Does he have a key? Rekey your house. What a putz criticizing your parenting and your child.

chrisfromcardiff · 03/03/2024 20:52

twinkle2525 · 03/03/2024 19:51

I've dumped him. I've blocked him and told him he's no good for my kids.
I just laid on my bed having a quiet tear.. and my 5 year old came in with a box of chocolates from downstairs for me and cuddled me and he has zero idea that he just confirmed my decision.

I loved my partner so so much and I'll really miss him. But the burning mother's love inside me takes over. My son is and will always be the strong man in my life & my job in life is to make sure he grows into the best husband and daddy ever.
I can't stop crying
But guess who's in my bed tonight?? My baby boy!! And he bloody can be when he's 30 if he likes!!!!!! Xxxxxxx love to all of you for your advice

and he brought you chocolates. This is a very sweet boy.

NorthernPoppetPrincess · 03/03/2024 20:52

You go girl 💪🏻💐

Starspangledrodeopony · 03/03/2024 20:57

Nice to see a poster quickly and effectively put their children first.

AfterTheWatershed · 03/03/2024 21:02

Glad you ditched the idiot. He sounds extremely immature, he also has zero empathy and no idea about children.