Is it ok to ask if he interested still

[userpip]

Been dating 4 months, everything great consistent communication, good morning texts and regular dates etc

We had date Thursday and he said he couldn't stay night due to work, Fridays morning he texted saying morning and asked how my day was going since then I've had to be the one to reach out, he responds but Saturday for example it got to 4pm and I had heard nothing until I messaged and again today I've heard nothing which is unusual as I would usually get a good morning

I just want to know either way Sonia it ok for me to text something along the lines of

Hey you've always been so good at communicating and keeping in touch but I've noticed the vibes changed since Friday, you know how I feel and I hope nothing has changed for you but the not knowing is making me feel a bit rubbish ?

I wouldn't personally.
Sure, you're used to daily communication, but one little blip in the flow of attention shouldn't trigger a relationship query.
It can be stomach churning having doubts about why the change. But give him a chance.
Distract yourself, any distraction to keep yourself busy...give it a couple more days to see if he gets back to normal without prompting, you'll feel better... If he doesn't you have your answer.
This is just a bit needy.

It’s two days…relax!

Don’t say anything, just enjoy the rest of your weekend.

If he's gone quiet for more than 48 hours... Then just send a 'hi, hope everything's alright?'
And go from there.

When you say 'Is it ok?', what do you mean? OK according to what? Our opinions? Some set of rules you think we know and can inform you of?

I think your message is good op. It's better to know and it's to the point. Vague qs get vague answers and 'everything ok?' Could be taken a few different ways

I think it's reasonable to ask. Don't phrase it aggressively as he is not doing anything awful. But the kind of phrasing you suggested sounds fine if it will help you stop worrying.

Maybe it's your gut instinct so listen to that but don't text your message, much too needy. It's fine for you to prepare yourself for the relationship to end but wait until you see him again.

Maybe he’s had a really busy weekend? Went out last night and lost his phone? Idk I probably wouldn’t text. It hasn’t even been 2 full days of things ‘changing’? Just screams needy to me and if a guy did that to me I’d run the other way.

Noooo don't do it. You don't need to, to know what your boundaries are and what you are worth.

Just distract yourself, see friends/family watch a good film, read a book etc. It will soon be obvious whether his level of contact and consideration for you is what you want or whether you need to call it a day.

Why put the ball in his court? You be the decision maker

Personally I’d see how things play out over the next week and don’t bother to message unless he messages you. See whether things get back to normal and if not then message something simple asking if he’s ok as he’s been quiet. Your draft message sounds needy.

How come you're the judge of what the 'correct amount' of need is?

I wouldn't. Leave it a while and see how things go.

She was asked for her opinion and gave it. Why the backlash?

Your message sounds needy. Keep it light.

@ArchetypalBusyMum

That's not a backlash, It's a question. Everybody has their own opinion. Saying that someone's behaviour is 'too needy' is similar to saying that a particular food is delicious, or a particular colour is good to paint your walls. It's not helpful to suggest to someone like OP, who is already not sure of themselves, that there is a 'correct' level to feel something. Because there isn't. OP needs to judge whether she is too needy by her own standards, not be told by someone else what she should be feeling or doing.

Op asked for opinions. @Livinghappy gave hers.
The qualifier 'in my humble opinion' is unspoken because it can go without saying in this context. No one (except you) thinks that @Livinghappy was making any kind of [attempt at] an irrefutable statement of fact.

I think I'd go with "is everything OK, you don't seem yourself" if you want to send something, but you probably already know the answer. It's probably better to keep yourself busy and show yourself you're OK for a couple of days without him. wishes she could follow her own advice

Hey you've always been so good at communicating and keeping in touch but I've noticed the vibes changed since Friday, you know how I feel and I hope nothing has changed for you but the not knowing is making me feel a bit rubbish ?
Personally I would not say anything about "not knowing making me feel rubbish". "Not knowing" is a direct result of you not asking whatever it is you want to know. You're already blaming him for not telling you, and effectively accusing him of hurting your feelings, before you've asked the question.
I'd also leave out the "you know how I feel" as it sounds rather like you're saying that your feelings should be rewarded with his feelings. Probably not what you mean, but it's not clear to me what you do mean by adding that.

When are you next meeting? I'd wait til then myself. Or until he explained himself, if it turned out there was anything to explain.

I think Soreteatowel's suggestion is good, I would just ask if everything's OK, and if he says why just say he hadn't been in touch as much as usual, so you wanted to make sure nothing was up.

I would not jump straight to "What does this mean for us?"

@Watchkeys it's my opinion, different to yours which is completely fine.

Op, it's still very early on in the relationship and it isn't great that he is holding so much power over your emotions. I would question why it's making you feel "rubbish". If he is cooling off that isn't you, it's just where he is atm and what he might be looking for.

Maybe give it another day or two and say, ‘Hope all ok, I haven’t heard from you?’ He has to let you know the problem then or just carry on as normal but from what you say, it sounds like something is up.

By sending that message you’re essentially letting him know he has that level of control over your emotions. Say nothing and just chill. Concentrate on your own life.

Well said @PinkLemonade555
Daily contact, without fail, can't be the permanent status quo, at some point if things are going to be long term, things reach a point where you can relax a little without the other getting worried.
So this quiet moment could as easily mean he feels you are both secure and happy, as it could mean he having a bit of breathing space/quiet time, or, he's cooling off due to doubts... Of those three, the first two are no bad thing.
If it's the third option, your message is more likely make things worse.

I think the best thing you can do is immerse yourself in looking after yourself and taking your mind off him for a bit. Whatever you would do that allows you to escape your thoughts for a bit.

Never chase.
If he wants you he’ll get you.

Cheers for that judgement.

@userpip Don't let anybody tell you you're 'too anything'. It's not up to them.