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Old flame back texting me

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Championfancy · 28/02/2024 18:55

WWYD
I have posted here before about an old flame. We were on an off for a long time, it was never the right time for either of us

A year ago I laid my cards on the table told him I had feelings and that I wanted something with him but he was starting to see someone and for the last year he’s been seeing that someone. I actually deleted his number off everything a few weeks ago. Trying to start moving on, even though I have feelings still.

This morning I get a whole host of sexual texts and a pic from him out of the blue. Unsolicited, completely

I can’t believe how he’s disrespected my feelings for him (I’ve crashed all day) and now I don’t know what to do.

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SkaneTos · 28/02/2024 22:21

Good that you have blocked him!

Move on from him! I am rooting for you.

Championfancy · 28/02/2024 22:23

Hiddenvoice · 28/02/2024 21:56

Even if he’s not physically cheating, sending messages to someone else even though he’s potentially in a relationship is awful. You’d be so hurt if he was your partner and doing that!

I’m glad you’ve blocked him. I know you’re seeing the good in him but sending you love songs to listen to and sending inappropriate messages even though he knows you like him is wrong. It feels like he’s trying to keep you hanging so you’re available whenever he decides he’s ready. You’re not second best and don’t deserve that.

Thank you

I have definitely rose tinted the whole thing hoping that ours would be somE kind of epic romance.

Like the notebook.

Sadly I think it’s more like a post it note. Easy to blow off and lose hha

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Direstraightsagain · 28/02/2024 22:25

Championfancy · 28/02/2024 20:04

He doesn’t actually intend on doing anything that much I know because I’ve seen him in person and he’s been very sweet and polite. He’s just being a typical manchild, he’s not a cheat.

He is. Cheat. If my OH did what he’s done to me , I’d consider him a cheat.
You need to delete and move on.

Moonlightandroses44 · 28/02/2024 22:26

It must be a crushing disappointment that the person you were in love with doesn’t really exist. I get it. But this has honestly done you a huge favour.

Championfancy · 28/02/2024 22:29

Moonlightandroses44 · 28/02/2024 22:26

It must be a crushing disappointment that the person you were in love with doesn’t really exist. I get it. But this has honestly done you a huge favour.

You’re exactly right! Because that person doesn’t exist I was just making him up in my head, the guy who is actually there would have cheated on me too. Why would I want him?

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Championfancy · 28/02/2024 22:30

Direstraightsagain · 28/02/2024 22:25

He is. Cheat. If my OH did what he’s done to me , I’d consider him a cheat.
You need to delete and move on.

I know. I should be done protecting him.

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