Man looks away whenever he sees me- why?

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This isn't about a relationship but I'm not venturing into the battleground that is AIBU.

I've noticed that whenever I see a certain man who used to live on my street who I have never even spoken to, he looks away in a really exaggerated way.

What do you think could be the reason for this? I find it really weird tbh. The other day I was doing some job like sweeping the front path and I looked up and saw him and he looked away really exaggeratedly. This has happened many times now and I'm not imagining it.

I felt a bit upset because I thought it's conveying a message that I don't exist, I am a non-person. I'm not good looking and I wonder if it's a misogyny thing, as in this plain woman is not worth looking at or somehow offends my eyes?

I feel a bit like saying to him that if he has such a problem with my face why doesn't he walk another way, but I've never spoken to him and moreover I'm not going to. It makes me feel like I should wear a niqab (face veil) so I'm not bothering someone with my face.

What would you make of it? 🤔
No, he doesn't fancy me, before someone says that. On the contrary, it appears that this man that I don't even know has taken a random dislike to me.

What have I done, though, apart from being a plain-looking middle-aged woman? The only other thing I can think is that both him and his wife never spoke to me while they lived nearby, which is kind of unusual in this area (semi-rural).

Thoughts?

When she said she was bent I wondered if she was giving an eyeful 🤣😅

They sound snobby and uncivil and off anyway ... Given you say it was unusual not to speak/interact where you used to live

@ElectricMinge hahaha your name and the subject matter 😂

Some people are just weird/rude .... I worked with a man who said his ndn ignored him and his family, even when he said hello.

This was going on for quite a while.

Perhaps his wife is very possessive and gives him grief if he even glances at a women. He makes a big show of looking the other way any time any woman passes to keep his wife off his back.

As non-issues go, this one's a winner.

odd but dont let it get to you.
Next time if he is close enough say morning /hi or afternoon see what happens then.

If you can’t see then how do you know he’s making a face at you, or just looking in the other direction?

I thought more about it and don't really have an answer but never mind! I'm just ill in bed and ruminating on things.

I'm not saying hello, I did say hi to him and his wife when they lived nearby and they both ignored me as I recall.

Definitely no flashing going on!

Is he from a culture that would expect you to cover your face?

No. It's a mystery! As people have said, his problem, not mine; I'm possibly just a bit easily offended these days. There must be some kind of issue, though.

Sorry you are dealing with that. It's funny how those little things can sting sometimes. Whatever his reasons, it is very rude. Try not to let it get to you, though. He doesn't sound like someone whose opinion you should value anyway!

Whiplash 😂 it’s not often posts make me lol

He could just be odd with no personality or social skills. Don't worry about him.

More than likely he finds you incredibly attractive and is trying hard not to look at you as it's making him uncomfortable.

Exactly this.

Much as I'd love to have random men find me attractive, sadly this is not the case! 😬

Anyway, when men are attracted to you they look at you, not away. They don't even bother to hide it. It's more of the opposite vibe, some kind of resentment or issue with me.

He could just be odd with no personality or social skills. Don't worry about him.

Thanks, yeah I guess it is all a bit odd.

Could you have accidentally flashed him when you lived on the same road? Like getting changed with the curtains open? We had this in a previous house. The lady seemed totally oblivious but it made my husband really uncomfortable and he used to try to avoid her as a result.

Don't give him any head space...just get on with what your doing and never look his way

I had this OP, and it turned out it was because he had tried to say hello and thought I purposefully was rude and ignored him. I felt so bad because I genuinely didn’t remember this and wouldn’t have ignored somebody on purpose.