My first post on here and have hesitated too long!
My husband is HIV positive. He caught it about 4 years before we met and it's under control with drugs so that he can't pass it on but it means occasional hospital visits for a check up and to collect medication. He asks me to come along for 'support' as he doesn't like hospitals generally anyway and I do but I find myself dreading it and feeling really low for days before and after and wanting support myself! I've asked him to go alone as he used to before we met but he gets angry and says I'm being selfish and should 'be there' for him which I understand but wish the whole thing didn't make me feel crap. When we met he hid his HIV status from me and I found out by chance which doesn't help my feelings. I can't talk to anyone else as he doesn't understandably want me to tell anyone. Am I being unreasonable?