Is this acceptable?

[niadainud]

Interested on people's thoughts on the below exchange (was originally on WhatsApp but can't seem to post screenshot). Thanks.

Me: I'm at a concert. What do you want to know?

Him: Communication. Again! So RUDE!

Me: Really wasn't intended to be rude. Sorry if it sounded that way.

Him: You're slow to reply and ignore my questions. Charming.

Him: When I ask if you're busy I get one word responses. How was it meant to sound?

Me: I working and then in bed with a migraine.

Him: Fucking say that then. You're being rude and you know it.

Him: Too late because you've just proven again why we don't work.

Toxic

I mean, it's not pleasant from his part is it? You know that. But a little more context?

Causing you to feel anxious when out enjoying yourself is cunt behaviour...

he sounds like a charmer.

He's horrid.

Exactly this. I’m not suggesting there’s any excuse for his texts. But we do need context, eg was yesterday his birthday and you’ve ignored him for a week?

Failing that, he sounds absolutely awful.

Also re context is this a very new relationship or is this years of resentment ?

Based on that I'd think he could get lost.

I would find it very difficult to communicate properly with someone who spoke to me like that. If I hadn't been arsey in the first place I probably would be after that.

I dont get the need for the thread? It sounds like youre already over and he is a twat of massive proportions. Just block the nob.

Is it acceptable?

No, definitely not. I wouldn't tolerate it, and neither should you.

This is all I have saved from that specific conversation as it's from a while ago, but I guess the context is more of the same.

No, we mean who is he? How long have you known him? What's the relationship status? I mean he's still a twat whether he's your husband of 10 years, a boyfriend for 6 months or someone you met online last month.

No, nothing like that. Just him seeming to be pissed off with everything I said or did. Although actually there was an exchange around his birthday that I might also post.

There's no warmth or affection on either side. It doesn't seem like 2 people in a relationship.

*Me: I'm at a concert. What do you want to know?"

This does come across a bit curt. Is this your usual style of communication? If so, I can understand his frustration. That said, my opinion is based purely on that exchange.

Were you actually in a concert or were you working then having a migraine?

Oh, sorry. He's a twat I dated for a short time a year or so ago. I'm just trying to get my head around why he felt he could speak to me like that (and why I let him, for a while). It still plays on my mind kind a bit.

I feel like there's info missing before the first sentence.

I was in a concert at that point. I think the working/migraine was the previous evening. I hadn't ignored him for an extended period (or even a short one).

Only a couple of months at the most.

'I'm at a concert. What do you want to know'

isnt really a nice way to reply to his text is it?

i don't know why he's getting such a pasting. Having been with someone with your communication skills, I can understand his comments!

Ah ok I thought it was chronological and one conversation. You are well rid.

Your first text does come across as rude - but context is needed, did he already know at a concert?
You excused why you were slow to answer as in migraine etc. He was right if you didn't tell him, but then, demanding immediate replies is a tad controlling.
Take him at his words, if he asks if you are busy ( and you are, or just don't want to talk for whatever reason) just say yes. Or volunteer up "I'm busy". It does seem you might be keeping him in the dark at times.

Yes, I can see that. Iirc he'd already be haranguing me before that exchange started, so I was a bit wary.

If you're not with them anymore, don't give this any headspace