Is this acceptable?

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Interested on people's thoughts on the below exchange (was originally on WhatsApp but can't seem to post screenshot). Thanks.

Me: I'm at a concert. What do you want to know?

Him: Communication. Again! So RUDE!

Me: Really wasn't intended to be rude. Sorry if it sounded that way.

Him: You're slow to reply and ignore my questions. Charming.

Him: When I ask if you're busy I get one word responses. How was it meant to sound?

Me: I working and then in bed with a migraine.

Him: Fucking say that then. You're being rude and you know it.

Him: Too late because you've just proven again why we don't work.

Thanks everyone. He'd already been using this sort of very critical tone for a bit before this particular conversation happened which is why my messages weren't as warm as they might otherwise have been.

Do over analysis

Just ditch people that talk to you like that again

You are not over analysing, you are looking at this again and wondering why you put up with it. The only thing you can do is make sure you don't put up with it from somebody in the future. He sounds absolutely horrible. I wouldn't want to reply to him at all and if I got that on a night out then it would ruin the night, which I think would be his intention.

It ended, why go over it? He was a nob. But as he demand a certain amount of text attention while you were out and busy, it would not have been unreasonable to say ' I'm busy'. Then not reply any further. That covers it and isn't rude, just fact.

I think you was rude first which explains his response it’s over now though so I wouldn’t give it headspace, I think I would have been rude back if someone had spoken to me how you did

I think more context was needed, your first message seemed quite rude so I wouldn’t be happy if someone I was dating sent that.
If the relationship is now over then I would try out this behind you and remind yourself that next relationship you have, you won’t tolerate any toxicity.

Why are you ruminating on messages from a man you dated a year ago? He sounds like a twat and you're well rid of him. Be grateful that it's over and enjoy your life without him!

Please reply "you're right, we don't, au revoir"

There's not much point in trying to analyse him and why he did this - he does it because generally it works for him, and keeps women in line.

But analysing why you tolerated it is useful. It will be a whole mess of stuff, from the way we are socialised as women; through messages we get from magazines and pop-psychology that 'communication' can solve anything; all the way through to personal vulnerabilities, such as only believing we are lovable if others love us/accept us, or only valuing ourselves if others value us.

Knowing your own vulnerabilities will help you to avoid this in future.

Natalie Lue's Baggage Reclaim website is really good on things like this:

https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/

You started off being well rude and it just disintegrated.