What do you think? I have always had partners whom I found very handsome and sexy to me, although I know they were human and not like models. I have also never had a boyfriend less than 6 feet tall (ie a few inches taller than me). Now, I never meet anyone who is handsome, apart from ones who are already married and therefore ineligible. I have never got involved with a really good friend (well, with one exception whom I had always fancied)whom I did not really fancy, because I thought that it would be like in Out of Africa or the English Patient, ie lonely woman marries man who is really just a good mate and then meets handsome hero and has torrid immoral affair which hurts everyone and someone probably dies as well. Now, I am starting to think, will I ever get a partner again, unless I just marry a man who is nice and I like him as a friend, but I don't really think he is handsome or sexy? I tell myself that being nice is more important than being handsome, but I am finding it really difficult to get over these stumbling blocks of height and looks. Also, I have had in previous years very happy sexual relationships with my partners, and conceiving ds was very sexy and happy. When you both want more children, how realistic is it to think you can have a longterm relationship with someone whom you don't really fancy? On the other hand, it is not fair to compare men in their 30s with previous boyfriends whom you knew 10 years ago, ie when they were in their 20s. I can accept that men in their 30s will not be as sexy as men in their 20s, and no doubt the same is true of me, and he will have to accept an older version of me, getting older all the time. So, the upshot is, what do you think about the comparative weight of looks and personality when falling in love?