An American dating a Brit

[BebeG922]

Dear All,

I am American and new to London. I am in first real relationship post-marriage and my boyfriend is British. We have been dating nearly 2 years (long distance at first and now closer). Though we both speak English, I have found our English very different. Just the other night, he asked me to express fondness as we cuddled.

Excuse me for being dense i.e. thick, though I know and understand what "fondness" is, it is simply not really how we speak in the USA 😂

He has also asked me today via text whether I still "cared" for any of the men I have dated.

What did he mean? LOL

Any help in dissecting his English is greatly appreciated.

TIA

Well I'm 49 so not much younger than him and I've been Englsih all my life. This is not an English thing.

I have never asked anyone to 'express fondness' during a cuddle. But I'd also suspect he is trying to euphemistically ask for a bj.

Would put me right off tbh. Not the asking but the way he did it.

If you're a native speaker of English you would understand these things, even if it's not how you would put it.

I have a feeling this is just a more cleverly disguised anti-American thread than the recent "Why are Americans so thick" thread that was recently deleted.

Apparently Americans don’t really say ‘fancy’?

so for those saying ‘he wants to know if you fancy your exes’ ….🤣

Why on earth is he asking you by text if you still like any of your exs?

He sounds a bit odd.

Has he form for any other jealous or controlling behaviours? (Perhaps that you're, mistakingly, excusing as "insecurities")

Sure he didn't say "expressly fondle"??

His comment and question suggest the relationship is transactional. Does he think your interactions are merely functional, and what does he know of your former partners?

Or maybe he's just insecure and wants a big hug and to know that you like him best.

@MissConductUS - thank you for being explicit. I had already when he said that.

I needed that😂

You're welcome. 😁

@NooNakedJacuzziness no 😅

He has used the word fondness/fond of on a number of occasions not just after a post shag cuddle.

We certainly don't. It was quite a novelty to hear it at first.

We don't say fancy as a synonym for desire. In American usage, it just means elaborate or posh.

This quite confused me when I first joined MN.

That's what I was thinking 😂😂 My other half is 10 years older, in his 50s, and doesn't speak like that:)