I’m 25 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. On paper he is perfect but as friends around us get engaged or talk about the prospect it makes me anxious and I just can’t see this in our future. He very much can though and talks about it often.
I can’t pinpoint what exactly is holding me back but I have expressed on numerous occasions that I feel our sex life is lacking. We have only done it twice in the last 6 months. To start I used to try and initiate but he hardly ever does. I am pretty sure he isn’t cheating as his phone is always open, I often use it and have never found anything remotely interesting on it. He says he lacks confidence but I feel like that excuse can’t continue forever. I even suggested the gp to get his testosterone checked but he brushed it off.
At the works Christmas party a gorgeous colleague was very flirty with me, showering me with compliments, saying he wishes we’d met sooner and all that jazz. Obviously I’m aware it was drunk talk and he does happen to be engaged so this would never go any further but it did make me think about meeting someone else. I feel like I’m longing to be wanted and for sexual compatibility. My question is from others with more experience, can you develop in this are as he is such a good partner otherwise or are we doomed to split up. We have a house and dog together and he would come off worse having to move out. The thought of breaking his heart kills me.