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WTF is this nonsense?!?

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User19798 · 03/02/2024 21:39

I will keep it short and simple.
DH had a very shit childhood, alcoholic parents, utter neglect.
Met at 18, I have been a good wife and mother, him a very good father and a good DH. He is NC with parents.
We have an objectively good life. Dh in an ok job, me own business, 6 figure salary. DH has 2 lovely holidays booked in the next 6 months and works 36 hours a week in a boring job - DC grown up, at good unis - thriving.
Next week we have our first ever holiday without DC - to a dream location (for him). DD is taking care of everything at home. We are soooo fucking lucky. So so lucky.
Tomorrow DD is taking DH for his Xmas gift - an experience he has talked for years about wanting to do. She saved for months - I mean grafted full time and saved and spent it all on her dad.
So he has been an utter twat all day. Woe is me. Poor him. Poor poor man. He HAS to get up 'early' on a sunday. He HAS TO HAVE A LOG HAUL FLIGHT next week to enjoy a holiday with his wife! (he is fine with flying and has done many many long haul flights)
He has been tantrumming and martyring all day.
We are mystified - any explanations? DD is heartbroken and I am ready to strange the knob head.

OP posts:
Mumoftwo1312 · 04/02/2024 10:49

Ghuunvg · 04/02/2024 10:44

It's a bit sad to have your teenager spend months of savings on you

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I agree. My dm and my ILs have actually fully grown kids, we are in our 30s with careers, and even so it's hard to get them to accept us treating them to a meal etc. One of us has to sneak off to find a waiter by stealth. And that's obviously not weeks/months of savings! They'd say keep your savings, treat yourself or save them up.

I don't know anyone with grown up kids, let alone teen kids, who'd accept their child spending weeks/months of savings on them. It's just too much. Let alone then acting grouchy and moody.

Naunet · 04/02/2024 11:07

BoilingHotand50something · 04/02/2024 08:17

If this was a woman posting, saying they feel overwhelmed or whatever is going on, the responses would be completely different.

As other posters have said, have you asked him what’s up?

Is he always like this? Or new behaviour? Any change in health? Is he sneaking around? Signs of depression?

Do we really need this on every thread even when it’s complete nonsense? You think a mum acting miserable and spoilt after her daughter had spent a small fortune (to her) on a gift, would get different responses? Are you calling everyone here who has taken the time to post, sexist for some reason?

OP, I had an extremely abusive childhood, and it’s still no excuse for this kind of behaviour.

Bluenotgreen · 04/02/2024 11:32

I agree with Naunet. My childhood was the stuff of nightmares and tv dramas. I don’t behave like this man.

He sounds spoiled and selfish.

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