Im finding it so hard dealing with my ex.
We’ve been apart 5 years but the hate from him feels like it was yesterday. A lot has happened. I stopped his contact with child because of his behaviour, a judge upheld this for a few years whilst he attended courses like a DAPP programme and anger management.
Contact resumed last year solely after they were satisfied he gained insight (very clearly never did). Our child is struggling with her emotions. Either ND and or trauma. I’ve said to him that the school are going to bring in a child psychologist to help her. I’ve said it’s possible she is suffering from trauma, she does remember all his shouting from before I left. I’m under no illusion that the fact she never sore him would have also caused trauma. He replies that I’ve caused this by stopping him seeing her for all that time for no reason and then filling her head with lies, wording it as filling her head with all the lies I’ve made up.
I never did this. I was too traumatised to talk about the relationship to her. I was honest and said we needed help from a judge etc, she already knew he shouted.
Im just so fed up that we always at this point. It’s doesn’t matter who caused what. Our relationship caused trauma and blame doesn’t help her.
Is he just unable to take any responsibility at all? I’m so sick of hearing this tale now.