I’ve been with my DP nearly 3yrs and we are due to marry this year.
My DP works 10-12hr days, 4 days a week but he gets up at 3.30am for work. He has been doing this job for 8 months and I am starting to feel like our relationship is suffering. He is understandably tired on his work days, but I just feel like I’m pushed aside on his work days, like I get a kiss and cuddle in the evening (with him usually falling asleep mid cuddle) but that’s it. We never have sex on these days and if he’s doing an extra day or two on overtime, it can be a week without. I find this so, so difficult because my love language is physical and I need that intimacy to feel loved, a kiss and cuddle doesn’t suffice and it just feels like I’m tossed to the side when he’s working and he picks me back up again on days off. I’m really struggling with this. I talk to him about it but he just reassures me that he loves me.
I feel that pushed out that I’ve signed myself up to a dating app. I wouldn’t do anything but talk. Why do I feel so needy 😞