DH and I have been married 5 years and have 2 DC aged 2 and 4. Things have been bad recently where I don’t feel respected and he has an anger problem . We were starting marriage counselling. He said he was going to work on himself and find a counsellor for himself as well which I was surprised to hear but pleased . He said he had one session in December and the therapist told him to stop drinking but he didn’t like this therapist and would find another . Now and then I would ask if he had found someone. He would say no or they hadn’t replied. Out of the blue he then says he’d made and appointment on a Tueday . The day comes but he doesn’t say anything in the morning . So I was curious as to who he was seeing and if he was just saying to pacify me. Then I went to work I then logged into his emails . So a thread where he was seeing someone , thought phew ! i then googled her and couldn’t find her , also not on the BACP website . Odd. Look closer at the emails where she tells him to look at faqs on the website - leads me to her website which shows that she is all about trantra massage , that she would be in a body suit , there are sexy photos of her on the website and it’s all about having a ‘ orgasmic experience and sexual awakening. Explicitly.
I then message him , asking if he’s seeing the counsellor today and he replied yes and sends me a website of a male therapist. There are many emails and he had been there once before late last year it transpires. There is an address of a ‘ studio ‘ which is actually a small flat.
I was so shocked and couldn’t concentrate on work. He’d booked a very expensive 2 hour session which was £100s . I ended up going to the place and confronted him after the session he had. I also confronted her and she said that she was all about ‘ healing energy. He was trying to stop me from even going in to speak to her. She was scantily dressed.
What would you do? He’s telling me that nothing happened , but he knows he’s in the wrong. He’s saying he didn’t realise.