Could I meet someone in my 50s?

[Barbarella73]

I’ve been divorced for 15 years now, and have had two relationships since then, both with emotionally unavailable men. I haven’t had a relationship now in 10 years - the last one took a lot out of me, and I didn’t trust myself to choose well. Now I’m 51, have done a lot of work on myself, and I feel ready to put myself out there again. But am I being unrealistic in thinking I could find love again?

No you are not! Go for it x

Don't see why not, use some dating apps and go on some dates

Maybe get a friend to help you choose!

Yes I'm sure you can, my Dad did and they have been together ever since. Slightly different circumstances for him as he was widowed. But she was divorced, they met on one over those over 50's single holidays.

My mum had two really great relationships from the age of 75 onwards 🙂

Yes, absolutely. My mum met her partner when she was about your age and they were together for 24 years. My dad remarried at 76. Good luck!

Me, my best friend, my ex husband…. Of course. But choose wisely.

Over 50's holidays sounds good. Can you go with a friend?

You might be interested in reading the ongoing dating thread on this board: Dating Thread 244 | Mumsnet

Some of the posters are around your age and they talk about their experiences of the dating world out there at present.

I was 51 when I met my OH. Best relationship I've ever had. I'm happier than I ever thought I'd be in a relationship.

I have a friend who is 62. She has met a lovely bloke.

Of course you can meet someone! It's a bit more of a challenge when you're this age (roughly my age) as your life may be more inflexible and less malleable compared to when you were younger. But you absolutely can meet someone and fall in love and there are many ways of making things work.
One of the great advantages is that you know yourself a lot better now - and know what you do and don't want in a partner.

It’s possible but as someone of a similar age my experience is it’s pretty difficult and the pickings are slim.

If you’re thinking about trying OLD just be wary and ensure you stick to your boundaries.

Go for it! I was in a very similar situation to you, and in my 50s was much pickier (but on traits like being emotionally available). Had to go through a few frogs on online dating but have met a wonderful man

I met someone . He's 10 years younger than me too . It's never too late

My DP was single for thirteen years before meeting me unexpectedly, we are very much in love. He was 63. He never thought for a second he’d finally find true, caring love at that age.

Thank you all so much for responding!!! ❤️

One of the things I’ve noticed over the last decade is that I’ve had a number of friendships with men who have ended up having romantic feelings for me. I wasn’t in the headspace for that then, but if it happened now I might be open to it.

I’m planning to try OLD, and I will definitely look at the dating thread here. I’ve found that I’ve often been happiest when I had low expectations, so I’m going to bring that with me into this. But I’m also bringing my standards - no abusers, leeches or people that aren’t kind. Life is too short. Thanks again 😘