Do I need to apologise for my attitude

[Lilllypad11]

Texting a guy that I work with. And simultaneously spent weeks flirting with. He’s been off for a while. We texted last night.

Conversation was as follows:

Him: “I sort of wish I could properly explain to you why I’m off. I just can’t be open though”

Me: “yeah I can’t even say a lot right now as I haven’t a clue what’s happening. But you know where I am regardless. I can listen to as much or little as you want me to”

Him:”it’s fine I’ll sort it” then he sent me some random meme

Me: “I just said I’ll listen regardless. The offers there for you to take or leave.” And I sent the laughing emoji for the meme

Him: another meme

Me:yeh I agree. I think cooking for myself is a waste of time after a long day.

I don’t know if the conversation just doesn’t flow well or if I’m just being a bit dismissive?

I’m autistic too so I can’t ever figure out if my tone is off…I do think I may be wrong here possible.

Sounds fine to me. Nothing to apologise for!

Sounds like he doesn’t want to talk about it

Why can’t he be open? Seems a strange thing to say.

And I couldn’t be arsed with all the memes.

Honestly. I think it’s weird too. He’s not saying anything over message

Is he off sick? Might not want to divulge much info if it's work related/thinks it'll get back to co-workers or management

Are the memes symbolic of anything?

If not, they might be his way of changing the conversation. Some people prefer to keep their personal battles private.

He's sounds really, really annoying. I couldn't be bothered with all of that childish nonsense.

What are the memes? I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong. It sounds like he doesn’t want to talk much though - it’s up to you if you feel ok with that.

Yeh I had to tap out the convo.

He is. Yes. But he texted first sooo. I’ve just kind of left him to it.

Why tell you he can't be open with you?
It's just gameplaying and attention seeking. Oh I'm so mysterious and troubled...but I want you to keep asking me.

I'd say...
Fine.
Hope you find someone to be open with. Off you pop. Bye.

I think it’s due to a possible agreement with our employer. I.e maybe texting could be incriminating. But I cba for guessing games

Ah I see, it's a work issue.
He's off work for some mysterious reason that he can't discuss
And you work there too.

It looks like after him saying he can't be open about it, you told him twice that your here to listen to whatever amount he wants to say about it. Which is nothing , so he sent 2 unrelated memes to get off topic.
If you want to talk to him, better stay clear of the topic of why he's off.

I thought this seemed familiar. Everyone on your other thread told you to back away from this guy because he was a headfuck.

You posted about this guy before.

Why are you still bothering with him? what are you getting out of this?

Me: “I just said I’ll listen regardless. The offers there for you to take or leave.”

I don't understand why you sent this message. It seems a bit argumentative. He already batted back your offer to talk in his reply to your previous message. "I just said" comes across as something you'd say in an argument.

I think the whole conversation sounds nonsensical.

Why does he have to tell you he can't be open? (Just don't tell you whatever it is, no need to explain). Why do you have to over-insist you are there to listen?

It doesn't sound like this is going anywhere.

I'd have left it when he said that he didn't want to talk about it.

I haven't read a previous thread so I don't know what the headfuckery is about but tbh if someone told me they didn't want to talk about something, I'd leave it, not keep reassuring them that I'd told them they could talk to me.

And he's under no obligation to tell you why he's off.

No apology needed. Maybe leave it a day or two then just send him a generic text (how are you?), if you actually want to continue the flirtation.

I don’t understand why you said that you would listen twice. I also don’t understand where cooking came into it, or was the second meme about cooking dinner?

Delete

Apologise for what attitude ? I'm not sure I understand
Regardless , take it from one who has made this mistake far too many times , don't get involved with colleagues if you plan to work there for a while .

This.

The entire conversation is bizarre. You offered to listen, he said no and changed the subject, you forced the point with your argumentative “I just said…”, and then a totally out of context comment about cooking!