Do I need to apologise for my attitude

[Lilllypad11]

Texting a guy that I work with. And simultaneously spent weeks flirting with. He’s been off for a while. We texted last night.

Conversation was as follows:

Him: “I sort of wish I could properly explain to you why I’m off. I just can’t be open though”

Me: “yeah I can’t even say a lot right now as I haven’t a clue what’s happening. But you know where I am regardless. I can listen to as much or little as you want me to”

Him:”it’s fine I’ll sort it” then he sent me some random meme

Me: “I just said I’ll listen regardless. The offers there for you to take or leave.” And I sent the laughing emoji for the meme

Him: another meme

Me:yeh I agree. I think cooking for myself is a waste of time after a long day.

I don’t know if the conversation just doesn’t flow well or if I’m just being a bit dismissive?

I’m autistic too so I can’t ever figure out if my tone is off…I do think I may be wrong here possible.

I’ve just read your other thread on this guy and the whole trying to plan last minute dates things is disrespectful. I met a guy who tried to do that on a number of occasions despite me telling him I need advance notice . What it says is that someone cancelled on them last minute or they’re randomly bored and are demanding you fill their time.

Men who do this are showing they don’t value you and you’re not a priority. If a man really wants to date you and he knows you need some advance notice, he’ll set a date in advance right away.

I feel it’s also a bit of a misogynist type test/tussle for control where they’re basically saying they want to meet when they click their fingers. Overall it’s a disregard for your time and for what you want so that alone is a massive red flag.

In regards to this conversation it sounds like again he’s bored and he’s just trying to be mysterious and talk about something without really talking about something. Cut your losses and don’t waste any more time or energy on this guy.

He’s telling you - I can’t talk about this, but wish I could

You say - I’m here to listen and again - I said I’m here to listen

But you’re not actually listening to him!!!

Because you’re ignoring what he’s saying and keep asking to be told by hinting you’re ready to listen.

A better response would have been ‘you don’t need to tell me anything, hope you’re ok’ or something similar