How often does your man look for sex?

[Cloclo93]

I'm just curious on other people's sex life, I'm 30 my partner is 40, we have been ttc for quite some time so we do have sex during my fertile week but other then that he never looks for sex any other time? I'm just a bit baffled where is his sex drive for the rest of the month.. anywho what is everyone else's sex life like? We do have a 5 year old daughter too.

How often do you want sex?

4-5 times a week's. We also have a 5yo and 2 teenagers. Both mid 30s.

Ttc can take a lot of the desire out of things. It did for us, it became a task to do.

So true

Every day We don't have sex every day but he definitely looks for it every day! We actually have it about once a week, which is a recent increase from once a month which was itself an increase on not at all for a few months after our youngest was born.

Everyday if I was up for it!

Maybe once every 3 months or so. I always have to instigate.

Every man is different. Ttc can be a bit off putting too. Almost takes the fun away.

We are 50. He would have us doing it 3x a day if I were up for it.

Twice a week depends how we’re feeling could be 2/3 a day within they 2 days a week if he has a hangover .. 😂

My other half would be happy three times a day 😂. There is a lot of compromise 🤣

Every other day, although I would three times a day if he was up for it. He’s 30 and i’m 38

Every day, but ttc can make it a chore! You both need to relax and enjoy it so it doesn't make it a task to tick off

I'd say he is keen on average 4 to 5 times a week. But it's not as often as this because I'm not always in the mood.

He'd like it multiple times a day.

I'm happy with once a week (if that) !

'Look for'. None I hope 😂

Him: most days if not every day - I’m awoken every morning by a familiar pressure against my back 🙄
Me: never again if I can help it 😂

It was fairly regular for the first 4-5 years, then would have periods of nothing for months followed by loads, then nothing again. While TTC DD, we were like teenagers again, I cringe at the thought!

DD is now 7 months and my libido has shot through the bastard floor, so we’ve not done much other than a quick kiss every now and then. He hasn’t mentioned anything yet!

Both 25, together 7 years, married 2.5.

It must be a nightmare being with a fella who is “looking for it” every single day, talk about pressure, I couldn’t be dealing with that

If I’m in a relationship it’s really important to me, so if he wasn’t “looking for it” every day I’d be sad. But why the phrase “looking for it”, doesn’t it just flow, don’t you guys ever initiate it? Some people on here talk like it’s a chore and I don’t understand why they don’t get a roommate rather than a lover? It’s such a hot topic on here at times I wonder why it’s not a big thing to discuss when coupling up, as mismatched libidos can cause such issues in a relationship

Libidos have really been problematic for us. If it were up to DH we would have sex every other days me however gets annoyed when it's more than once a week.

We have been TTC for four years without luck and it's made it so much worse.

Well it depends if the woman's sex drive is also high. Mines looks for it nearly everyday and I've never knocked him back. I'm always up for it with him.

Every week/ten days. He is on meds for high blood pressure that knock his libido to the floor. My sex drive is high and I'd like daily tbh, but it's not to be.

I hope it is in the younger generations. In my day you wouldn’t really talk about that sort of thing early in a relationship and then if problems with libido did occur you would think it selfish to just focus on one part of the relationship instead of the whole. I hope younger people feel more free in this area

Fifties and late sixties here, knackered with young children and teens, we generally manage daily, sometimes more sometimes less. It tends to be that a cuddle naturally extends into it - neither of us “looking” just enjoying loving each other.