He's 42.
Ex husband. Going through a divorce. He with his current partner days after we separated - more than likely over lapped. No proof but I'm sure we did.
I haven't seen anything of my ex husband in almost 3 months. We have a son together who he rarely sees.
I've been good at not snooping at them. He's blocked on my Facebook (which is all the social media I have) and she's blocked me for some reason. Never spoken to her or met her in my life so who knows why.
I also have a daughter - she's 13. (She's from a previous relationship- she is not my ex husbands child)
She came home from school and said 'mum I've got to show you this'.
She had stumbled across my ex husbands new girlfriends tik tok account . There's only a few videos and they are of him and her. In these videos, they are both either drunk or drinking. Bitb have a glass in their hand. Both dancing about, both just being daft. There's one of them doing a gavin and Stacey sketch.
He would have never of done anything with me. I went through a phase of doing network marketing (don't come at me!) and would always try get him in my videos but the answer was always no.
He's 42. Never drunk while he was with me. Claimed that life wasn't for him anymore. He was a gambling addict and used to do football bets every single night. We never went out. He never wanted too. He was happy apparently with our quiet life. Though was very abusive - I'm still in therapy.
It also worries me - it shouldn't - but he is a gambling addict. Could he easily get addicted to alcohol? I have my son to think about here. There's other tik told if hair her and her mate dancing about with cans in their hands. It looks like drink is now a very big part of his life.
She's late thirties - was in my year at school though I didn't know her. The absolute opposite of me. We weren't alike in the slightest.
This isn't the husband that I knew. It hurt to see it yet I also think they are both pathetic?
Also - he's never ever seen gavin and Stacey. I love gavin and Stacey but he would never ever watch it with me. So that did hurt to be honest. Even though I know it was just a bloody tik tok 🙄
Anyway my daughter didn't mean to upset me. It's just we haven't seen him in forever and she thought I would want to see. She also wasn't snooping - she came up as a suggested person as the new girlfriend has a daughter the same age as my daughter and they all have mutual friends - just not the same school thank goodness.
So yeah... not nice to see considering I haven't even seen a recent photo of him in months.
I won't look again and my daughter has blocked the account so she can't look either. We don't need to see it, it was just a shock for us both to see someone that still sort of feels like our family is now happy as Larry enjoying life while me and my family are still trying to pick up the pieces of his betrayal and abuse.
Everyone is telling me how classy I have handled this. I've let him go without saying a word. There's many things I could say. Many texts I could have sent when I feel he's let my son down but I'm just staying quiet. No reaction to anything. I ended up having to call the police the last time I saw him as he refused to leave our home and was scaring the life out of me. These tik toks were made 4 weeks later.
Don't know why I'm posting...just need to vent. Sorry x