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Am I crazy? maybe I've lost my mind

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possiblycrazy · 12/01/2024 19:05

I've been seeing a man for the past four months. We don't live in the same city so we only see each other a couple of times a month, usually for a weekend. We've argued before about how crap he is at messaging and this week he has seemed really distant and rubbish at texting back.

A couple of nights ago I had a very vivid dream about him sleeping with someone else. I woke up pretty upset about it. I told him about it (over text) and he was a bit annoyed with me for taking it seriously. But then he basically stopped talking to me, and didn't say anything all of yesterday. I messaged once, and then when he didnt answer after several hours, messaged, I feel like you're ignoring me, and asked what was going on. No response.

By this point I was pretty much done with the whole thing. When I woke up this morning he'd sent a message saying he'd been unwell and his phone had died. I sent a message basically saying, f you, you've fucked this up and I'm done. In my head, I was 100% certain he'd been with someone else. But he was like ???? And it jolted me into thinking, have I just made all that up in my head? Maybe because of the dream I had?

The shitty communication is a dealbreaker anyway. But I'm a bit worried that I lost my mind. In my head I absolutely "knew" what was going on but now I realise it was just a story I was telling myself.

I'm just a bit worried about my mental health now.

Sorry this was long.

OP posts:
EnterFunnyNameHere · 13/01/2024 15:23

LoveSandbanks · 13/01/2024 13:09

I’ve had several dreams where I’ve dreamt my husband cheated on me. He always spends the next day making it up to me 🤣

not because he’s done something wrong but because he knows how distressing dreams like that are. We ALL know it’s daft to be upset by a dream but relationships thrive on kindness.

That's really kind of him - but he probably wouldn't do this if you'd only been dating 4 months I'm thinking...!

something2say · 13/01/2024 15:26

I reckon your dream was important. I once had a dream about my car - everything I n it had been stripped off aside from the passenger seat, where my partner at that time would sit. The steering wheel, the wheels, the back seat, the glass, everything from my journey had gone leaving him with the only seat. I got straight out of that and took it as a massive warning. I reckon this guy possibly did sleep with someone else and that's the real reason behind his silence.

x

possiblycrazy · 22/01/2024 14:51

I got a message from the ex yesterday, apologising because he had in fact been sleeping with someone else while we were together. He said he was freaked out that I dreamed it. It's over now, apparently. I assume she dumped him and that's why he's come sniffing around me again. Or maybe he's just sorry for cheating and lying. Either way, I'm not interested.

OP posts:
pickledandpuzzled · 22/01/2024 15:08

Your subconscious is obviously alive and well, OP.

FruitBowlCrazy · 22/01/2024 15:15

You haven't lost your mind. Your mind is working just fine.

The red flag is that he was angry with you for telling him about this dream. Most people would have found it amusing, and texted back with tales of their own bizarre dreams. The mere fact that he was so annoyed by it tells you everything you need to know about him. Either he is a serial cheat anyway, or he takes extreme offence at anything, where none was intended. Whichever, he is no loss.

m00ngirl · 22/01/2024 22:43

Knew it @possiblycrazy , well done for going with your instinct! ❤️

MMadness · 23/01/2024 07:02

At least it's done.

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