'I might want you to get a tatttoo on your thigh'

[burnersgl]

This is coming from a bloke I've been speaking to on tinder for a few days. Swapped numbers. No plans of meeting just yet.

Seemed nice. Easy to talk too. Just got a mortgage for a houses, sees his kids regularly, very family oriented. Doesn't drink a lot. His social media all matches what he says.

I mentioned I am getting a tattoo on Friday. He asked what I was getting and then also said that he might want me to get one on my thigh 😘

Immediate ick.

Decided to starting thinking about dating after an abusive and controlling marriage so maybe I'm being over sensitive? He hasn't really love bombed me or anything. Isn't pressuring me for a date...just says whenever I'm ready.

But that feels controlling to me!

Trust your gut, always.

Strange thing to say. I would have been tempted to say, you will be waiting a long time. Setting the conversation up to.become more sexual no doubt

And I would reply "and that won't be happening"

I don't think it's controlling. I think he's trying (and failing) to be cute and flirty. But if you don't like it, for any reason, then just end it there. Absolutely no reason to take it any further, even if everyone else thinks it's fine. It's about you and your feeling.

Andrew tate vibes - didn't he make his victims tattoo his name on themselves? Run a mile!

I replied with a simple 'no'

Eurgh...this is why I think it's so important to message for a while before meeting them. Least I'm acting on it though instead of just brushing past it....maybe I have finally learnt something 🙌😂

Oh no! It’s like he’s branding you? I have a tattoo and I regret it would regret it so much more if I did it for someone else!

How peculiar. Next!

I once briefly dated a bloke who had tattoo/piercing fetish. I have some of my own but he wouldn't stop going on about how he thought I should have my tongue pierced. He suggested it, I said no. He kept on and on about it and I got annoyed in the end. Also when in public I'd catch him staring out girls that had noticeable tattoos and piercings. It got too creepy for me in the end

Sounds like your guy has something similar going on. If I were you I wouldn't pursue the relationship and suggest he finds a girl who's got a thigh tattoo already

strange. tell him only if he gets your name tattooed on his penis :)

I have a fair few tattoos now and they all mean something. Especially since having the courage to leave my marriage. They remind me that I am strong etc. I would never get a tattoo because someone wants me to. Ever.

Exh has my name tattooed on him (I assume it's still there unless he's covered it with his great girlfriend's name!) and also the 2 women was with previously were also tattooed on him and covered up though I didn't know this until towards the end.

Ex always wanted me to get his name tattooed on me. Thank goodness I never did but I suppose it's slightly triggering - though this new bloke isn't to know that I suppose.

It's proprietorial and inappropriate and you've not even met him. Swerve.

I think it’s bad flirting.

Honestly, I’d have replied with something like “oh great, I’ve got a fantastic idea for one I’d love you to get one on your cock….” 🤷‍♀️

Reply: And I might want you to get an adult personality.

I think Andrew Tate was teaching his followers to get women to tattoo themselves on his womanising course. They covered it in a bbc documentary

Yes I agree. Trying to get someone to get something permanent put on their body just for someone else pleasure is definitely not for me.

He has mentioned thigh tattoos earlier on in the conversation about how much he liked them and I told him then I wouldn't get one as I hate that area of my body. So he already knew it wasn't for me

This

Move on OP

I told him then I wouldn't get one as I hate that area of my body.

Do not give this dickhead any more airtime, and be very careful of how you speak about yourself with new men. There are manipulative shits out there who will exploit your insecurities, don't hand them out on a plate, avoid him and anyone like him.

It’s just the easy entitlement of ‘what I want’ and ‘my idea of your body’ being in the same bracket for him.

I don’t have a tattoo but I imagine they are very much about having total autonomy over your body and your identity. For him to violate this idea with that comment is gross. Yeah, as bad as that.

Block.

Did you ask him why the thigh?

He's a weirdo.

There is no 'might'. It would be something he wouldn't shut up about.

No I there's been no more contact. He did actually send me a message the next morning just that he was going to work - he drives for a living. He asked what kind of driver I was and wondered if I was a 'typical woman driver'....🙄

Though he did put a 😂 after it but I still didn't find it that amusing.

He sounds like a tosser!