'I might want you to get a tatttoo on your thigh'

[burnersgl]

This is coming from a bloke I've been speaking to on tinder for a few days. Swapped numbers. No plans of meeting just yet.

Seemed nice. Easy to talk too. Just got a mortgage for a houses, sees his kids regularly, very family oriented. Doesn't drink a lot. His social media all matches what he says.

I mentioned I am getting a tattoo on Friday. He asked what I was getting and then also said that he might want me to get one on my thigh 😘

Immediate ick.

Decided to starting thinking about dating after an abusive and controlling marriage so maybe I'm being over sensitive? He hasn't really love bombed me or anything. Isn't pressuring me for a date...just says whenever I'm ready.

But that feels controlling to me!

He's a wanker. Adios.

You mentioned the tattoo, of course he's going to ask where you're having it.

If you don't like the thigh chat, bin him off.

Just bad flirting

Just because I mention I'm getting a tattoo doesn't give the right to turn into a twat.

I have binned him off 👍🏻

Maybe a rubbish joke? . If everything else seems good then don't bin immediately but proceed with caution!

I mean this in the kindest way but I think you're being a bit sensitive. Having read your updates, nothing suggests that he's bad news. He's bad at flirting and he's made a joke.

Yeah I don't think I want too. It was an immediate ick after coming out of a controlling relationship. He might be a lovely guy - in all fairness he probably is but there's no point me even trying. I lost interest immediately and I need to just accept that rather than trying to make something work that I'm not comfortable with which is what I did for years!

To be fair, I think it's a good learning curve for me!

I appreciate that but I think if I'm too sensitive then I'm just not ready to date. You could be absolutely bang on - but it's just a sign for me that I'm still not ready.

I'd be more pissed off about the sexist comment about your driving tbh. Bin

Ridiculous thing to say.

Also a bit like an incel!

The tattoo and the women driver comments = wanker imo.

I hate tattoos so anyone suggesting I get one would be a non starter.

He may have said it in banter or he may be a bit weird.

I wouldn't be interested.

He didn't suggest it, she did.

What he says makes no sense so that would put me off straight away.

Testing the waters to see how potentially niave or how much you can be controlled like iniation test,

Red flag central Point 👉

@MorrisZapp what exactly did I suggest?

We told each other what our plans were for the day. Should I have lied?

Great way to start a relationship and assert boundaries....how the hell are you supposed to find out if a potential partner has any red flags if you can't be yourself from the start?

Next time I go on a date I'll cover them so they can't be seen 👍🏻

Sorry op, you mentioned you were getting a tattoo. I was replying to a poster who seemed to think he'd brought it up apropos of nothing.

I shouldn't have said 'suggest'.

This wouldn't have bothered me, IF You were in a relationship and he was simply saying he would like it but you haven't even met him!!! its an odd thing to say you'd request when you haven't even met, may as well of asked you to get his name and face tattooed on yourself,

Banter or Bantz is often a shitty mens way of 🥸 socially disguising their intentions or and what they really are about,

Have you heard the saying "many a truth said in Jest or along that lines,"

on the other hand he could be a socially arkward man who was trying to be flirteous and the jokeyness has landed like a lead balloon, 🎈

Cause of my experince of men unfortunately,
i am bettin, he is Just a Prick common garden variety (shitty man) syndrome, even though i could be wrong..

just be cautious and watch out for any signs of shitty jokey put downs under the disguise of just having a laugh on regular basis...

and run 🏃‍♀️ for the hills.. 👉 that way...

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