My boyfriend and I sat down per his request to talk about him feeling there is a lack of affection present during the last two weeks of him working overtime (50-60 hrs per week). I got up hugged him, told him I loved him and that I was sorry and would do better. I then asked if the conversation was open for me to express myself as well by stating “Is this a two-way conversation or did you just want to vent?” He said yeah of course it’s two way. I expressed that I’ve been feeling emotionally alone and shutdown by him and that sometimes I need that level of connection to be physical. He begins to tell me that he knew I would do this that wow perfect time to choose to talk about this. I give him an example of when he said he’d resume a conversation and address a moment where i felt he lacked empathy and he said that I need to just let things go.l and that if I was crying because I felt bad for him why would he need to drop his feelings and ask me why I was crying. He then said I love to argue and he began to dismiss me and do things around the kit he’d I began raising my voice saying that I held myself account and apologized for my part, why can’t you do the same? And he asked me why can’t I just shut up sometimes. I got angrier and kept repeating what he said and following him and he said just shut the fuck up and then mushed me in my face.
can you consider this to be abuse? Am I wrong? He did this in front of our son.