How to compromise when dating

[lula99]

Currently long term single and have been told my standards might be too high! I’m reconsidering what my deal breakers are and what I am looking for in a partner.
Does the person you are with (LTR or married to) match the person you envisaged being with? Or did you make small concessions? What sort of things did you compromise on and did they turn out to not matter in the grand scheme of things?

3 Uni friends, all been with their partners since late teens/early 20s.

So they know bog all about dating in their 30s...

He wanted a quiet goth woman. I'm not "loud" but I'm a chatterbox and I'm not goth.
He had long hair which I like, and he's tall but he's slimmer than my usual taste (well he was, he's plumped up a bit in over a decade) and he's very quiet. I didn't ever think I'd be with someone so she and reserved.

Having said that he's a good Dad, a thoughtful partner, a considerate lover, we share a taste in movies and TV, and love of live music even if the genre doesn't always match, we make each other laugh,we have some similar geeky interests and both support the other to be themselves.