DATING DURING DIVORCE

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I've been with my boyfriend just shy of a year. He's currently going through a divorce which isn't amicable and is becoming very expensive.
My boyfriend has been distant lately but says all is fine but when I've pulled him on it today he's said his not sure he sees a future and everything else going on is getting on top of him and making him question things, feels as though he wants to be on his own.
My biggest fear was always I was a distraction or rebound, his soon to be ex wife has met someone else also. He promised I wasn't.
I've gone above and beyond for him, supported him however I can, helped him financially etc and now I just feel really used.
Any advice on what I should do next please?

Always going to be the rebound relationship I'm afraid.

Leave.

Sorry he said something has changed in him.
He said he can't put his finger on it and he just feels as though he has changed.
He's tried to work through it for a week or so as his not sure if it's a phase but he thinks maybe he should be a loner.

My BIL left his marriage and hit the dating scene hard. He was on all the apps and constantly texting women. When he came to visit with his two children for weekend the phone was pinging non stop. He was always going on about how tough things were for him and how hard life was and how he never had any money. He strung so many women along. He dated one woman for over a year and openly told me he was doing so. When she started to put more pressure on to spend more time together he got cold feet. The reality was that he was using her and also still dating other women. She would not have had any idea about this. He spun her the so. Story of poor divorcee with crazy ex wife and she lapped it up. He could still be stringing her along now for all I know. Your fella sounds like him. It’s hard when your a decent person as you believe everyone else thinks like you. I would hate my daughter to end up with someone like my BIL. He uses women and is incapable of loving anyone but himself. Don’t second guess him - he is not a keeper.

I imagine he can sense you are getting impatient having waited a year for him, and he doesn't want to hear it, given the stress he's going through with the divorce.

As he probably still needs all the things you've been giving him (comfort/sex/support/money), he most likely has a new, fresh woman waiting in the wings, that he will string along for a year.

Leave with your dignity OP.

Thank you for your replies, I appreciate them.

I've left now.
Feel like my dignity has gone but I'm just so angry. I've given this man so much time and effort and money, even just things like picking shopping up for him or paying for activities with his teenage daughter. My fault I know for being so naive but I remember when I first met him he made me feel so special, promised me the world but I suppose I was just part of his game.

My ex has a very close female friend, who was originally his soon to be ex wife's friend but is now his and on his side so to speak.
We'd never met properly, just once in a supermarket by chance.
My ex accused me of blocking her on social media as she couldn't see my profile which I hadn't, Id messaged her saying I was aware she couldn't see my profile and didn't know why and her and her husband and me and my boyfriend should meet for a drink and be nice to meet them properly, she said great etc and all very pleasant.
Now today The day after we've split she's blocked me, we were never friends on the app but I just find this weird. I know my ex was with her and her husband last night, probably laughing at my expense.
Do you think there could be more to this?