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Thoughts on this comment

33 replies

emerald7 · 30/12/2023 19:08

Thought on when a man says!!

Just because I cheat it doesn't mean I don't love you! It's in a man's nature to explore potential and gain experience.

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Worldupsidedown23 · 30/12/2023 19:09

Red flag. Ditch and move on.

INeverForgetAFaceButInYourCaseIdLikeTo · 30/12/2023 19:09

It means he wants and expects to be able to shag around

MILTOBE · 30/12/2023 19:10

I would laugh in his face and walk away.

BCBird · 30/12/2023 19:10

Wtf. Ass wipe, not worthy of ur time

OhnowIUnderstand · 30/12/2023 19:10

Lol. My thought are that he’s a cunt
and would be out the door.

Tittyfilarious81 · 30/12/2023 19:10

Bullshit

Shouldershoulder · 30/12/2023 19:12

My thoughts would be that he's an egotistical cunt and I'm 100% sure I'd be correct.

Edited to add : has a man actually said this to you?

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emerald7 · 30/12/2023 19:17

Shouldershoulder · 30/12/2023 19:12

My thoughts would be that he's an egotistical cunt and I'm 100% sure I'd be correct.

Edited to add : has a man actually said this to you?

Edited

Not to me, it was a conversation I had with a friend. Her husband expects that from her!

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Worldupsidedown23 · 30/12/2023 19:19

An open relationship with clear boundaries that both partners have consented to is different, but that statement doesn't sound like that's the situation.

MsDogLady · 30/12/2023 19:55

So, in his view, does she have the same right to ‘explore potential and gain experience’ ?

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emerald7 · 30/12/2023 19:57

MsDogLady · 30/12/2023 19:55

So, in his view, does she have the same right to ‘explore potential and gain experience’ ?

No men are logical and don't get emotionally attached like women apparently

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ANightmareBeforeChristmas · 30/12/2023 19:59

Total, utter bullshitting bullshit from Bullshitsville, Bulshitland, the Bullshitverse.

Mmhmmn · 30/12/2023 20:30

Wow, what a prince. Hope you've told your friend that her man is a prize c*t and she deserves better.

MsDogLady · 30/12/2023 20:31

He’s a sleazy, manipulative cheat who is attempting to normalize his infidelity. Is your friend actually buying his misogynistic and degrading bullshit?

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emerald7 · 30/12/2023 20:36

MsDogLady · 30/12/2023 20:31

He’s a sleazy, manipulative cheat who is attempting to normalize his infidelity. Is your friend actually buying his misogynistic and degrading bullshit?

Unfortunately!

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MsDogLady · 30/12/2023 23:32

Well I’m sorry that she thinks so little of herself. She is agreeing to expose herself to STIs (condoms don’t prevent all) and OWs’ pregnancies. She is accepting the sloppy seconds of multiple OWs. She is okay with being the object of pity when those who know he’s a player gossip about her.

It’s tragic that she is so desperate that she would agree to this degradation. Sooner or later, after ‘gaining so much experience’ and ‘exploring’ so many women, he will likely drop her for one of them.

QuitChewingMyPlectrum · 30/12/2023 23:40

What is this phenomenon? Is it only in our household or does anyone else experience this.…

Watching TV, DH has eyes closed and is snoring.
Me: Why don't you go to bed to sleep? You must need it
Him: I wasn't sleeping

HE WAS!

It genuinely winds me up - why not admit you were sleeping. What's to gain?

QuitChewingMyPlectrum · 30/12/2023 23:40

QuitChewingMyPlectrum · 30/12/2023 23:40

What is this phenomenon? Is it only in our household or does anyone else experience this.…

Watching TV, DH has eyes closed and is snoring.
Me: Why don't you go to bed to sleep? You must need it
Him: I wasn't sleeping

HE WAS!

It genuinely winds me up - why not admit you were sleeping. What's to gain?

Apologies. Wrong thread

doriangraybutimthepaintingintheattic · 30/12/2023 23:47

@AuDHD4Me ha I just came from that thread too

doriangraybutimthepaintingintheattic · 30/12/2023 23:48

God what a cunt! Self-centred, sexist arsehole is what I'd think. And I know men who say that.

Opentooffers · 30/12/2023 23:52

Step 1 - stop having sex of any kind with him.
Step 2 - go have an exit affair if it gives her the gumption to leave, it's worth it !

Luigia · 30/12/2023 23:58

The prat has failed to understand that for most people -
sexual experience is acquired prior to marriage
marriage implies exclusivity
his mantra could apply equally for her

PaperDoIIs · 30/12/2023 23:59

I don't know about you, buy when we were about 13 there was some bs music and films with the "I'll always come back to you darling" theme.We thought it was romantic. That the poor sod waiting at home was the special one. We were stupid. We were also 13.

Tell your friend she deserves better than this. She IS better than this. And get herself checked for STI's.

category12 · 31/12/2023 07:49

It's up to her if that version of "love" is enough for her.

Some people's "love" ain't worth shit.

Catlord · 31/12/2023 08:03

Well he's made himself clear, he's got no qualms about shagging around. Up to her what she does with that info. He should have made it clear before their first date or as soon as it came up though that he wanted an open relationship, as "cheating" in it nature is duplicitous and not loving.