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Thoughts on this comment

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emerald7 · 30/12/2023 19:08

Thought on when a man says!!

Just because I cheat it doesn't mean I don't love you! It's in a man's nature to explore potential and gain experience.

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Watchkeys · 31/12/2023 09:20

That's in his world, and it's his prerogative to believe that.

'Just because you love me, doesn't mean I'm not going to maintain my boundaries, one of which is that I don't spend time with cheats. That's in a woman's nature. Goodbye.'

would be a viable response.

Whataretheodds · 31/12/2023 09:21

emerald7 · 30/12/2023 19:57

No men are logical and don't get emotionally attached like women apparently

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Men don't get emotionally attached but he loves her?

It's BS. I hope she shows him the door.

WandaWonder · 31/12/2023 09:43

I would say 'give you points for trying but that is it'

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emerald7 · 31/12/2023 11:10

Catlord · 31/12/2023 08:03

Well he's made himself clear, he's got no qualms about shagging around. Up to her what she does with that info. He should have made it clear before their first date or as soon as it came up though that he wanted an open relationship, as "cheating" in it nature is duplicitous and not loving.

They've been married 15years! I feel as though he is looking for an exit but wants her to end it

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category12 · 31/12/2023 11:20

emerald7 · 31/12/2023 11:10

They've been married 15years! I feel as though he is looking for an exit but wants her to end it

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Don't really see why he'd want an exit - he gets to do wtf he likes.

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emerald7 · 31/12/2023 11:21

Fair point, I didn't even look at it like that 😭. Guess it's a lesson she will have to learn for herself!

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SOxon · 31/12/2023 11:39

QuitChewingMyPlectrum · 30/12/2023 23:40

Apologies. Wrong thread

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wrong thread or not - this brought back a memory of hot sunny weekend,
family with 3 small children in the back of a car, husband driving, on extended
M6 contraflow,
only barrier between us and heavy lorries hurtling south are cones.

I glance at husband, he is nodding off ! so I gently nudge him, say his name,
he jerks awake irritable, shouting, demands to know what I’m playing at, knocking him when he is driving. I said, quietly, you were asleep! he retorted
No I wasn’t I was JUST resting my eyes

terrifying, irresponsible, unapologetic, cavalier, indeed, what is to gain

SOxon · 31/12/2023 11:50

OP I had one like that many years ago.
He thought he was clever, irresistible, Don Juan.

Considering my own sexual, mental and emotional health
I ended it, decisively.
It wasn’t 15 years, but it was degrading, confusing, insulting.

Ain’t nobody got time for that.

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