Just incase anyone is having 'yet another miserable Christmas' because your partner has done or said something that's upset you and this seems to be a pattern for them during the holiday season, or on any holiday or special occasion - a reminder that abusive people like to ruin Christmas.
If you're sat there crying because you have worked your arse off for Christmas and he's obviously totally ungrateful. And you know that tomorrow, you'll wake up to a crappy gift (if any) from him for the umpteenth year running...ask yourself, do you really want to spend the rest if your life this miserable bastard?
If you're worried, because the family are coming tomorrow and he might drink too much and start an argument with them or with you, infront of them.
Or perhaps you think the day is going to be filled with snide little comments and general put downs. And him just being a joy sucker all through Christmas.
Or perhaps he's already put a damper on the day by creating some drama and doesn't give a flying fig that you're upset. Or worse, accuses you of overreacting or being too sensitive.
If this shit is familiar too you
It's not normal. You don't need this person in your life. Your feelings, are valid.
You deserve a merry Christmas. But you'll never have one again if you keep people like this around.
And be aware, I use 'him' but just as many abusers are women.
Feel free to post your stories of the experiences you had with abusers during the holiday below to help show people currently going through it, how it can be spotted.
The good news is that many people finally see these sorts for who they really are at this time of year and use it as an insentive to get free.
All the best to those of you leaving abusers this year and to those of you have already made the journey.
Merry christmas everyone!