Hi all
so we have a 1 year old I work from home full time, I pay the full rent, I pay the bills(in debt and struggling), I apply for jobs for my partner (he does but his picky), I cook, I clean, I do the groceries, I tidy, I run errands, I look after our baby whilst I work, I pick up after him, I do nothing for myself and I’m always exhausted and in arguments he says “you don’t do anything for me” “what do you even do for me” “I don’t ask you to do anything” (referring to chores/cooking) he never asks me to do them or rarely but if I don’t do it no one will? He never tells me to wash the clothes but if I don’t do it no one ever does? He doesn’t ask me to clean but if i don’t do it it becomes inhabitable and so I have to as no one else does? He doesn’t ask me to put away his clothes but throws them on the floor and they stay there if I don’t? I clothe our child I do it al. If I don’t do it no one will then he says I don’t take care of him sexually and his low maintenance and I should take care of him like that sometimes when I turn him down several times he just goes silent on me other times he continues to ask. I sometimes just do even if I’m exhausted just to get him to shut up and leave me alone but it still continues.. I just don’t understand how he says I don’t do anything for hom? He said even if he left I would need to still do all this so I’m not doing anything for him? But he does nothing for me at all? Cleans once every 4/5 weeks like just putting the toys away or throwing stuff in the bin and that’s it